I think it is best if I stop doing this, but in some strange way I think it keeps them in our lives. It is a loss, we don’t want to feel that loss, so if we think about them, about what they are doing, what they did, how things went wrong etc etc etc it is not giving them up, its not letting go, because we don’t want to, it hurts! I’ve been trying to think back to other loves as to how this resolved itself. The last one was some time obsessing, thinking what I would do and then deep depression and giving up. It was giving up the hope and feeling the sadness of that that made it go. I remember in the end, instead of thinking of him every day and being sad, I would just be sad without really thinking about or knowing why. It wasn’t really linked to him so much. It did help that at this time an old flame got in touch, and then stuff happened from there to pull me back to that, but I dont have anyone on the horizon, and I am not a one night stand kinda gal, and I don’t meet a bunch of people I like like that very often, so it could be some time before I stop obsessing. I still dont want to stop. I hope setting things on this site and achieving them can distract me. Distraction is good! 14 months ago