Stop being so passive

One of the things I’ve noticed is that when I talk to people, I tend to not look them in the eyes.

I decided to start doing so in the past couple of weeks. It’s been tough but, little by little, I feel like I’m more invested in people’s conversations. I feel a little more respect from my peers every time I see them.

It’s great what a little thing like this can do to improve confidence.

I have been trying really hard lately with this one. I’ve always been one with the “whatever” attitude, and I just let the cards fall as they may. I always found it easier and less stressful that way. Recently, I decided to try changing this. My first example is two nights ago when we were reserved a lane at the local bowling alley. We got there later that night and they said they didn’t have our name down and the guy was ready to brush us off. We were then standing around deciding what to do next when I decided to get assertive and spoke up. Using my “I’m not putting up with this” attitude, I got us that lane. My most recent example is with this girl that I have sort have been seeing. She has come off as totally indifferent for a while and it was making me really uncertain and insecure. Today I finally decided I was going to get a straight answer and eventually made her pretty much decide if we were having a relationship or nothing at all. So things really didn’t lean in my favor when she went with nothing at all, but I still feel a lot better knowing for certain where I stand. I like this assertive, proactive attitude.

After nearly a month of sitting back and relaxing, thinking about things and watching more movies than I can remember, I’m ready to get doing things again. And I’m ready to do it in a big way. I’m not sure what that means yet, I’m inspired and I’m ready to make it happen.

It occured to me while I was doing all this thinking, that I haven’t been truly joyful in quite a long time, but I also haven’t really been doing anything about it. I’ve been incredibly passive, waiting for something better to happen, and in case you didn’t know this for some reason, let me tell you that that is not the way to get things done.

So I made a list of the things I want to do and I intend to do them. I also made a list of 100 things that made me happy and working overtime, meeting up with acquaintences I don’t like and doing errands were not on it. Go figure, eh?

I tend to be passive about everything in life.. unless i become agressive that is. i seem to just let things simmer until it gets too much then i explode and everything comes out then .. i need to be more assertive in everything i do