First of all, the aim of dispassion isn’t to become a cold, cynical person with no feelings, compassion or joy in life.
The aim is to free oneself from the extreme control of emotions, get rid of all the unnecessary suffering they lead to and see things from a different point of view.
“Dispassion is not the result of a cold heart, the suppression of emotion, or simply rising above the feeling nature, ignoring its needs.
Dispassion is not heartlessness or a cutting off of an awareness of the need of other people.
Dispassion is holding an objective view of the emotions, remaining unattached to them.
Dispassion is the stilling of the emotional vehicle — an action that is just as important as stilling the mind.
Dispassion is holding the emotional nature steady in the light of the mind, and seeing thereby the action of the emotional vehicle without attachment to it.
Passion is “addiction to people, places, and things,” and dispassion is the state of being free from these addictions.
When dispassion is practiced, the emotions no longer hold their ancient lure over us. We are set free from the magnetic influence of desire.
A long process of standing as the observer is necessary in order for us to be free from the emotional world. By this constant process of inward observation we learn to stand above our emotional life. When we see our emotions clearly, and realize their origin and source, we are set free from their control. We then live a life of constant love, joy, and happiness.”
