Create A Successful Consulting Business~

The ‘difficult’ client (previous post) has become demanding, dominant, lacking in integrity and passive-aggressive … among other non-cooperative and manipulative behaviours.

So, in an effort to begin to right the uncomfortable, used & abused feelings that have been coming up for me with ‘the difficult client’ (from a previous post) I sent an email to outline that, at our next scheduled appointment, I wanted to reiterate our original agreement. And that I wanted her to come prepared to deliver on a commitment that we made at the beginning – nearly 6 months ago!

1st email back from her – “No. You need to be patient with me. You need to not pressure me – after all I am the one who is in need of help. You are the professional. Essentially, you need to do what ever I need because, since you are in the role of professional, I am therefore, vulnerable to your authority. Suggesting that I make good on the commitment I made, stresses me”.

I responded by saying. “I think we see the situation quite differently. Let’s talk when we get together. May the Blessing Be”.

2nd email back from her – “This is not an argument, but a statement. I need to know that you put my well-being ahead of everything. You need to be patient with me.”

I responded by saying. “I think, even more now, we see the situation quite differently. Let’s talk when we get together. May the Blessing Be”.

3rd email back from her – “There will be no discussion. Period. The subject is closed.

Steam is now coming out of my ears. Fire out of my nostrils. I am Not (at that time) in my higher Self! (Nor do I want to be.) With great difficulty I go about my day of work, and errands …

When I return back to my office there is yet another email back from her (4th email) – “A conflict has arisen and I will not be available for our next appointment.”

The bottom dropped out of my belly and I screamed (to God) about the injustice of this passive-aggressive, user, transparent, reneger person … and a whole other string of nasty thoughts. Then … I realized that, once again, God knows what it is doing.

(This individual had (until today), access to sensitive business information in another of our companies – separate from the BFR consulting that I am in the process of developing.) Though there were some niggly concerns before, there wasn’t clear-cut evidence of questionable ethics. Now that there is undeniable examples, I pondered all day – how can I lose this person without putting us in jeopardy? To me, I can’t be sure of what she would and would not do … given how she is behaving.

Before I’d hardly had a chance to create a win:win exit strategy … hahaha – while I was out doing errands for a few hours, God arranged things so ‘she took herself out!!! Interesting. Cool. Astonishing.

I’ve learned some strong lessons from this person. And I am reminded of my favourite Tony Robbins words – Trust in God and tie up your camels! (God has my back. I need to take the time to forge protocols and policies before taking on any new clients.) Funny. And I had begun to think I knew what I was doing. Duh!

… for me is the one who ‘knows more than I do about what we’re dealing with … but keeps coming back’; takes almost twice the allotted time or arrives part way through the allotted time; chooses not to engage in the self-support plan that I follow-through with, but continues to complain about the issues that I am working to resolve – , but keeps coming back … Yes! This is all the same person.

And I am handling the situation badly. I am torn between wanting to help this person and feeling used and abused. Where is the line? Clearly, I need to develop written policies about all sorts of things I didn’t think I would need to deal with in this role.

I was wrong! Back to the drawing board. It’s soooooooo much more than just being fabulous at what I do. People, especially those in need of my services, are not always going to be cooperative or ethical or reasonable. Duh! Wake-Up!

I think I need to have a big think.

Meeting with H. was excellent yesterday. We covered many details of our plan. I am going to get the business license today…and the decorating ideas have started!

I feel very blessed and thankful.
:)

I wrote an email to H. and on Thanksgiving Day heard back from him… He agreed to my “plan” and now moving forward! I will begin to set up the office in the month of December. I will get all of the paperwork in order, literature, and a plan for advertising etc.

This is really happening! I’m very excited and yet I see that things move in their own time…this entire experience is making me aware of continuing to trust in the process…
simply amazing!

When I return in January I will open up shop! :)

I visited a friend who has already done what I want to do, opened her own ‘office’. It’s incredibly BEAUTIFUL!

Although she is struggling a bit, I see her becoming wildly successful. Seeing her already doing this helps me feel less ‘afraid’ and helps me realize…it’s just a matter of doing it. FEAR is the only thing keeping me from moving ahead…I feel myself moving more toward this goal…

I have a plan to get the physical office arranged before I go to Nepal and then once I return jumping in joyously.

Need to speak with H. about this.
:)

I have been working with a new agency for two weeks now and I like it. My supervisor at this new site is very ambitious and knowledgeable about the business aspects of private practice. As an intern I have the ability to learn the ropes and develop my business mind as I have little experience or knowledge in running my own business.

I’m excited because I’m working with great people, helping people who really need it the most in our society, and learning how to run a private business…all very good!

I just ordered very cute business cards from the internet!
They are pretty “open” with primarily my name and basic
info~ as time goes on I can ‘change’ or ‘develop’ further
what needs to go on them…

:)

YA!

One baby step at a time…I say….

I met with a former professor yesterday who is willing to support me fully in my endeavors of opening a private practice of sorts…
I’m really excited and nervous at times…I’m thankful to my friends who have been talking to me and helping me feel more comfortable and relaxed about everything.

Really exciting!
:D

I feel so blessed and also like I am on the right path….
I did not apply for that other job…as I really did not want it.
That was nerve wracking for me yesterday, but today, I feel better and know that I made the right decision.

This symbol is an inspiration of sorts of how I want my logo to be…I like the “heavenly path” spiral…

I stumbled across a website that provided a lot of great ideas for what I’m thinking about~ I feel really excited about this…
:)