know it when I see it

I have my bullshit detector turned up to nuclear.

I have been told that I am a very approachable person (I smile a lot, etc), and in some ways, I can see where that is not a good thing. Where I go dancing happens to be a bar(shocker!)....and not trying to be conceited at all...but

I get approached often. This is one of the approachers.

Long story short, a person (who I told that I’m not dating b/c of some bad things I went through) makes the remark to another person, “I would’ve just punched him…”

Before, that was a caution flag…now it’s a big red flag.

!!!ATTENTION LADIES!!!

This is more than a jerky remark. This is an attitude. This person is telling you they think violence is acceptable. Run, don’t walk to the nearest exit.

A middle eastern man and I are dancing, and he leans in to me, and says, “I want to lick your nipples!” I just laughed, (because who says that?!?) and told him I thought that was rude, he had just met me, etc.

After the night ended, he came up to me with three of his friends and asked if I wanted to go out to breakfast with them. They were all leering at me, and so of course, I said no.

(Four of them, one of me? NO FRIGGIN’ WAY.)

He kept saying, “I’m not terrorist, I’m not terrorist”, and I actually had a moment where I felt guilty that he thought that I thought he was a terrorist. I’m no bigot, goddamnit! My less shrewd self would have turned that guilty feeling into a stupid decision, not going anywhere with them, but not getting rid of them, either.

But, in my head, I was thinking, they’re going to rape me, they’re going to rape me....

And I ended it right there.

Thank you, powers that be, for keeping my head clear.

I went out dancing last night, and was approached by an individual who didn’t want to respect my boundaries, although I don’t think it was anything sinister on his part. Just drunken assholery? Not sure.

If you aren’t 100% sure that the girl wants you to touch her, just f#cking dont. If she wants you to, she’ll touch you first, if that’s where it’s going.

Clue number one? She says, Please don’t touch me.

My mother’s therapist (who has seen me twice)gave me the most half-baked piece of advice, that I should go back to him, and take my stuff with me (permanantly sticking myself back in the situation). I interpreted this as an attempt at reverse psychology, but WTF?

What if I had no clue about reverse psychology? What if I was just beaten down enough to take that shitty advice? “Oh, ok, maybe I should do that!” I just think it was completely off base, and ill spoken. “Maybe you need to go back there, and take all your stuff with you.” Further implying that I am somehow using my mothers house as an improper storage option/ inconveniencing my mother.

I filed it in the “crazy bullshit” category, and thanked him for his imput, but no, I wasn’t going back, thanks anyway. It just made me infuriated. It was transparent, and most of all, I think irresponsible. What if I had taken that as true advice from a doctor?, instead of how I processed it—that he knew I was smart enough to see it for what it was, and reject it whole.

But God. Think about it. Don’t suggest to the person that they go back to someone who hurts them. Be as supportive as you can with the choices that they feel they have to make. Do not encourage them to go back.

I also feel that since he knows that I know about reverse psychology, it was somehow more of a direct, truthful statement on his part. Or an insult to my intelligence.

was a scary, abusive, screaming jerk. And I didn’t know it.

Looking at mobile homes yesterday, in a sketchy-looking trailer park…

The first one smelled like piss. As vulgar as that may sound, most of you would have thought the same, I’m sure. The carpets were UNbelievably stained, with all sorts of nasty things. The kitchen was workable, the bedrooms were not. Obvious signs that the roof was leaking, but the best little front yard ever.

I asked the little mentally challenged handyman how much they wanted for it? $400.00. (I’ll give you $200.00, MAX, and come to think of it, you have to pay me to live here)

Next, please…

He said, “This one’s in a little worse shape…they had animals”...literally one step in and I turned around and gagged.

I said, “Please tell me the next one is better.”

“Uh, yeah, a little…”

The very first thing I notice is a stump right next to the trailer, termite holes all through it. I just laughed. Inside, the kitchen was DESTROYED, and multiple sinkholes in the flooring became rapidly evident as I walked around, just chuckling to myself, “This is classic.”

I thanked him for his time, and drove off, thinking, this shit is beneath me. I’d rather sleep in my car! I feel sorry for the poor bastards who get stuck with that.

Shitholes giving dumps a bad name “NOT WORTH IT“