stop talking about people behind their backs

I keep quiet when i hear people gossip/
It works so far
a gossip betrays a confidence

This is such an ugly form of conversation. I want get back to…”if you can’t say something good, then say nothing”

yeah welll…..its not going too great
people talk about me behind my back…so i get annoyed and start talking about them behind their back
i would rather if someone had a problem with me they would just say it to my face.

I would like to say it’s ‘venting’ but it’s usually bitching. I try so hard not to but I can’t control it. Then I spends hours, days, weeks, stressing about it. I don’t mean it to hurt anyone, usually it’s something that’s not worth bringing up to the person so I just say it to someone else and get over it. Or is that a cop out? I’m fearful the person will find out what I said and be really hurt. We are friends from work, and what I said was a work thing not a personal thing. It’s too late to take it back but gee I wish I didn’t say ANYTHING.

Talking about people behind theere baacks gets you into a lot of bother and belive me i should no i talked about my best friend to one of my other best friends (wee aree boff trying too stop bitching) and so did shee and then she told my best friend everything me and huur saaid about hur and my best friend foned me and asked me if i said all those things and i said yess and we are no longer best friends and thats why am trying to stop bitching and i said alot of really meen things about her and i wish i never said any of those things

I’m failing. I’m still doing it. And this can really hurt people. This is not just about me, it’s about other people and their feelings. I have no right to tell what isn’t mine to tell.

i don’t know what to do. i talk about people, and then i feel awful about it, and yet i continue to do it. im not sure how to stop. i know it’s hurtful, and that i shouldn’t do it, but i cant help myself. i don’t know what to do.

I wish I can stop… But it’s almost unconscious. I don’t realize I do it, until I get confronted. It’s sad, I wish that I had another way to communicate with people by not talking about others…

Everyone is annoying sometimes, I have been on the receiving end as well as the one talking. I don’t want to be that person so I am going to try my hardest to stop!

I rang this person up , who is and has been a work colleague. Unfortunately this did not work, this person does not see this as a good thing at all. I have now learned that this is not a positive way of amending problems, i was severely reprimanded and this person who I spoke to in a civil and i thought friendly way really does not like me. I will never apologize for talking behind someones back again. It is very painful to be honest and very painful i would imagine for the person to whom I apologized to. All that I can say is that I was genuinely sorry to that person and i am sorry that person took it the wrong way.