stop talking about people behind their backs

I really need to watch this one. I talk too much sh*t at work about my fellow co-workers and the boss. Problem is it gets back to people and they don’t like me very much. Of course everybody at work does this and I seemingly get drug into conversations about others…give my honest opinion…fell bad and pay for it later. I need to watch it from now on and keep my mouth shut….guess if I fell a certain negative way about somebody my diary is the best place to dump it and not on other co-workers.

I rang this person up , who is and has been a work colleague. Unfortunately this did not work, this person does not see this as a good thing at all. I have now learned that this is not a positive way of amending problems, i was severely reprimanded and this person who I spoke to in a civil and i thought friendly way really does not like me. I will never apologize for talking behind someones back again. It is very painful to be honest and very painful i would imagine for the person to whom I apologized to. All that I can say is that I was genuinely sorry to that person and i am sorry that person took it the wrong way.

I’ve never said anything TRULY AWFUL about anyone, but I still find I…vent about people a lot when they aren’t around. Sometimes it really IS just venting, but I need to make sure it’s always just that, and that it never becomes petty or nasty. Every time conversation seems to turn towards badmouthing a person, I will stop and think before I say anything.

I overheard my roommates talking about me yesterday, and they said some awful things. It made me feel horrible.

But not just about the things they’d said, but about the fact that I do it too sometimes. I know I will never be able to stop bitching completely, I know that sometimes I just need to vent, but I’m going to try and be more productive and less petty. Especially with my friends.

even if i dislike them..
its not nice

I have no reason to stop talking about people behind their backs.

They’re all stupid anyway.

...because it gives you back some of your life in a way. You don’t have to like everyone, that’s not what I’m saying. But talking shit just wastes away your life, and makes you just like them. If there’s something you’re just dying to say about/to them, say it to their face, and don’t be a pussy. You only talk shit about people when there’s something about them that either, you’re jealous of, want, or something about them that’s just like you.

to not say one bad thing about anybody for an entire twenty four hours. So far so good.

I’m really trying to work on this. It’s so easy to vent to someone about someone else, but all it really amounts to is talking shit about the other person. I need to learn to take my issues up with the individual I would otherwise talk about behind their back. It takes, courage, patience, and a quick mind a slow toungue so that unecessary words are not spoken. It’s a work in progress.
However, did you see what she wore today?? j/k ;o)

Well, that’s what this is anyway. It shouldn’t happen, but I’m easily swayed.

My friend was mad a few days ago, and I said something to my mom that degraded my friend.. and she’s actually a close friend.. and now my mom thinks weirdly of her.

i need to learn how to shut my trap.

and i almost spilled the beans about someone’s ‘doings’ to someone i’ve only known for a number of months

man… if only i didn’t do this, i’d feel better about myself.

i guess i feel… unhappy… of course that’s a given but i guess i’m not content with what i have, which ties in to my ‘be more appreciative’ goal.