get my sex drive back

isn’t what it used to be. Aside from the achy body parts, changing water temperature and then sneaky dog that opened the door to let all the cold air in as well as tried to jump into the shower as well, let’s just say it wasn’t as fun as I remember it. At least we tried. sigh.

This has been going so so. I think it would help if he didn’t think I was interested in doing the deed every time I kiss him. I know he’s deprived but anticipation and a bit of teasing can be a huge turn on.

Men are actually “more” feeble minded that I ever could have thought when it comes to women. I would hate to think what life would be like if I actually married a loser. My husband is this great guy, husband, dad, provider, friend etc . . . not to mention smart, funny, good looking and even romantic. So either I have ridiculous standards in life (is walking the dog that imposing) and will never be satisfied (maybe partially true) or men in general, no matter how intelligent and great are down right stupid when it comes to growing up and/or understanding women.

The honeymoon is soooo over. I wouldn’t trade my kid for the world but what a way to put a complete halt to the sex life.

I think I need to write my husband a book on this. Actually that might not be a bad idea. He’s not a bad lover but after two years of marriage and a baby I think we’ve developed some bad habits and if I’m feeling frustrated I’m sure he is to. That whole “I want you to want to __(vaccumm, enjoy shopping, look up what women want online, etc. . .)” argument is lost on men. The “just tell him what I want” is the approach I’m gonna try a bit more aggressively. It works in other areas (chores, etc.) why not this one.

On hold for two weeks. No problem. As for the DH I hope he doesn’t rack up a high hotel bill with expensive porn ;)I should mention that the night before he left was extra special for both of us. There is hope.

So the DH is gonna be in Thailand for two weeks, maybe longer and I’ve been nothing but awful. I haven’t been this way in months but I’m suspecting the new birth control pills may have something to do with it. I feel irritable and cranky. I’m gonna try to be nicer. I’m gonna miss him a bunch.

Mentally I’m often there, physically this may take awhile. marriage put a mild dent in this but childbirth has totaled my sex life. I know it’s still early but I’m gonna ask the husband to start the romance back. I miss being close physically and being more spontaneous. I think I’m embarking in a whole new phase in this area too. More talking and less action may be a good way to start. I’m gonna need a lotta patience on his part. Poor husband. I’m thinking I’d like to read some romance novels. Any suggestions?

My sex drive was like a man’s, until I started using birth control before my wedding last year. My doctor told me that birth control affects womens’ sex drives a lot more than we talk about. I feel like such a stereotype, and I HATE IT.

I’m still a newlywed! We should be bonking all over the place! I want to go off the birth control, but really the only non-hormonal effective control are condoms. I thought I’d never have to use those again. How ironic; I want to avoid pregnancy, so I get on the pill. They’re so effective that I don’t even want to have sex that often, sheesh.

I was in class the other day, gazing out the window, and usually while I am doing this I would be thinking about reality, writing, or life forms, but this time I shocked myself to the point of being physically startled. I realized I was thinking about sex. And recently, I’ve been thinking about it like four times a day. Its crazy, I don’t know how that happened all of a sudden.