Be in a healthy relationship

i guess what made it better is that we started to talk a bit more deeply and share what we want and what we expect. im getting better at communication. to make sure we stay on the same page is key, and not to get upset when we don’t understand each other.

i dont know how to do this. i must be picking the wrong people or something…. everything seems to be a challenge. just having a loving calm day seems to be a battle…

its new, theres communication and a spark. we came of to a bit of a rough start. bit of a culture shock… i hope things don’t get to tough….

I have been on a dating site for 9 months and have not met anyone who I can connect with enough to start a relationship.
I’m wondering if these guys really do want one or to just date as many woman as they can, or because they’ve been hurt, say they want a relationship but really don’t.
I wonder where or if there are any down to earth, serious about love, funny, honest, caring, working men.
That’s all I have to say on the subject.

My relationship started out rocky and has been the same for a long (almost) 11 years. I know that we love each other. But there is always that bug in your stomach telling you something else. I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. although he is great at it. is this ruining my relationship? He cheated several times and i stuck by him but when we fight i throw that back at him . i always see that. any advice?

I look back through pictures and see how relationships started great and they turned out so bad and it scares me to totally throw myself into another on faith that this will be different, especially when the person I am with is uncertain of our future. I am going back to my old ways of being more rational, and using concrete evidence and work with what I have rather than not. I’ve been wanting marriage, but i think there is some truth in that being the wrong decision. So many marriages and cohabitation situations turn out in divorce. I will not cohabitate, that is for sure. Been there, done that, didn’t work. I think staying unmarried for a bit longer is the best thing for me, even though it wasn’t my choice initially. My baggage will go away in time, I hope, especially if I focus on my life, my career, my family, and how great my life is, alone, or not. Damn men in my past….they really left a burn, I wish I had not gone through those unpleasant moments…

I always pick people who are “unavailable” in some form and I always wind up disappointed, hurt, betrayed, and rejected. I’m tired of feeling so hurt and worthless as a result. I want to learn how to seek out healthy, nice people, instead of addicts, alcoholics, severely mentally abusive, lying womanizers with anger towards women. I want to find someone NICE and trustworthy who cares about me as much as I care about him.

Since i started dating it seems like everything is perfect in the beginning and then i start flirting with other guys while i am in a serious relationship … i wanna stop cheating on my partners and actually find someone im serious about and settle down… but its so hard because i feel like my partner is probably out there fucking me over so i dont want to be heartbroken and stalkerish and begging for some1 2 be with me so i think that when u have someone on the side ur attention is not focused on 1 person .. i guess im afraid 2 give my all cuz then i might be to dependant on them and im a very sensitive person so if some1 says anything to me that i dont wanna hear it hurts .. and i was in a 5 year relationship which i was so in love with him until i would find out that he was goin 2 clubs and talking to girls behind my back and he use to be like veryyyyy in love wid me 2 the point where he was obsess so why would he do stuff like dat ? then when we broke up he stop changed so much … he became a major asshole so its been 2 years that we broke up .. i cheated on him multiple times that he knows about and he still took me back but then the reason why we broke up is because i lefted him for someone else .. maybe thats why he has resentment towards me … my second relationship was the 1 i was wid for 2 years after my ex … you could say karma came back to me … i was soooooo madly in love with this guy but he never showed me no type of attention he was always goin out and never respecting me but for some reason i held on like an idiot i kept gettin hurt over and over and over again until i finally decide to let go and cheat on him so i started to cheat on him and guys would call my phone while i was wid him or some shit and he started to get really abusive he would beat me up or cuss at me and bring me down like i was the lowest person alive … it got so bad i started to catch anxiety attacks … so yea unfortunaltely im still wid him but i really wanna leave but now wid the anxiety he became a security blanket 2 me .. i dunno what 2 do???? i juss want to leave the relationship widout feeling dependant on him

i have learned that i need to stand up for myself if something bugs me. even if it leads to a fight i need to say something and not bottle it up. i did this in 2 relationships now and its just so hard for me… my next relationship im going to say this early on.. i hope they can help me a bit to say and speak how i feel. i don’t want to be a bottle anymore

i can hardly move forward, my past relationship i thought was going to be my last, everything seemed so perfect. but i was blind to the truth of what everything truly was. i want to be in a relationship..but it just doesn’t seem like its going to happen for me. but if i do ever happen to get into another relationship, i wanna be in one where i won’t be destroying myself to make someone elso happy.. i want someone who truly cares about me and vice versa