Come to think of it, I'm good at this
19 months ago
It’s not weaseling out, if both parties have a better day from not meeting.
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You can do it!
4 years ago
I hope I am wrong when I say that I think most people waste their lives on people they actually don’t want to know. It may be in school, when the popularity contest setting forces you into groups that you can’t get out of, or later in life, because you don’t want to tell people that you don’t like them to their face.
It does not have to be this way! You don’t need to be an ass (I learned that from Olle) to do it, just be frank (I learned that from Martin) about everything. Most people find it refreshing and respect that. People will learn that you are not interested in hanging out with just anyone and adapt. Sure, you won’t get as many phone calls (emails) anymore, but that’s just a sign of things working your way.
I’ve practices this for many years. Don’t be false to people—don’t pretend to be interested in their shit if you are not. And tell people you like that you like them and want to spend more time with them. And remember: you don’t have to have elaborate, intellectual reasons and you don’t have to justify or motivate everything. If you think someone is unpleasant, that’s it.
