be more extroverted

I’m tired of being shy!

I hear the talking heads but to me they are saying nothing.

I tend to be quiet even when around close friends and family. I think it has been hurting my relationships lately, and need to make a conscious effort to talk more with those I love. I also want to improve my skills at talking to acquaintances and strangers. I am a funny, intelligent individual who has a lot to offer, now I just need to get it into words when I am face to face!

I think I don’t want to try for this one anymore.

If I grow into it, I do.

But I was thinking about all the things I want to do and change… and actually, I’m quite happy being a shy, introspective/introverted space-cadet. I’m friendly enough that being shy, spacy and introverted, etc doesn’t hinder my social life any – sometimes it actually enriches it. Same with my mood, outlook, life in general, etc.

Maybe I’ll pick up this goal again if my nature begins to make me dysfunctional or anti-social somehow… but I don’t see that happening.

:D

i don’t think i was really shy lol but yeah i mean i managed to stop thinking about what other people would think about my behavir and just be myself :)

I’m going to say that I’ve done this, even though it is of course one of those qualitative goals that is never really complete. I mean, you can always get to a point where you’re extroverted enough to satisfy yourself, but it will never be something that’s completely automatic. I am more extroverted now than I was when I made this goal, and it’s been really good for my life. I think that for me, a lot of it had to do with being comfortable with my sexuality. Working on that made me feel better about myself as a person in general. It also made me a little less submissive, since I realized that being closeted had to with submitting to the life expectations of most of the people around me. Challenges with my dance major also helped me to start to come out of my shell. It really helps to relate things like this to life specifics. That provides a little ground and guidance. And it’s nice now not to worry quite so much about what other people think. Also, I’m still learning that it’s fine not to always be extroverted. Because…see this entry? Mighty long-winded.

One thing that I learned from my incredibly scintillating strengh and conditioning text book (in the psychology section) is that introverted and extroverted people have different ways of receiving external stimuli. Introverts tend to heighten everything they see, while extroverts take in everything and reduce it. This was very, very interesting to read. It explains why I often have trouble synthesizing practical information in a setting where there are lots of people around, or lots of different kinds of things to think about. It also explains why I tend to shut down when I’m at a large party with lots of noisy people. Interesting. It helps to think about it not strictly being a confidence issue.

I feel like I can finally talk to people I’ve never seen or go to a party where I only know one person and get to know new people. I’m not the most extroverted person in the world, but at least I’m not afraid of interacting anymore… lots of travelling by yourself can definitely help with this ;)

Personally, I’m already pretty extroverted. However, it sometimes comes off as in and out. It’s strange cuz sometimes I get introverted and just wanna be in my own lil’ space. Just quiet at times.. I really want to be fully extroverted and stand out. Life is too short to remain in the crowd. Might as well do it big and be the best I can be.

I try talking to people whom i don’t usually talk to and i found out alot of things that i don’t know about them. Not only does this strengthens and enlarge my circle of friends.. it also improves my commmunication skills and enhances the meaning of life.