be more confident

confidence is key to a happy life. I believe. I had someone recently criticize me, it could have been constructive or whatever.. but I initially took it as insulting and condescending.. and I think when you have confidence these negative remarks sort of slip off you because you think highly of yourself. I am trying to look at the comment as nothing and something to consider but not to let it hinder my confidence or abilities. I think it’s working so far, I watched an episode of ‘Canada’s next top model’ and Meaghan hadn’t been doing a good photoshoot but it wasn’t her fault but the fault of her hair and makeup, it wasn’t her modeling abilities, it was other factors. Anyways she started taking the comments inward, like hair not good, makeup not good, etc.. they had to re do it many times. Then something was said to her.. and made her feel horrible and the lack of confidence she had made her feel badly about herself when it wasn’t her fault. Her pictures turned out weak and she looked sad so the judges told her to work on her confidence and gave her another chance. I recommend everyone here watch that episode it taught me a lot about confidence and self esteem. so in the meantime I’ll work on building up a wall of confidence no one can break down and try to remain strong. We can’t help what people think or say about us, but we can decide and control how we react to it.

Having just written an entry on my anxiety goal I’m no longer sure if I really do have a confidence problem or if I’m just introverted and lazy?

I don’t really get much opportunity to go out and exploit my levels of confidence. I realise that a confident person would go out and do new things all the time as natural course, but when I realistically think about all the things I could do if I wanted to, I don’t really hit any barrier, just my own laziness.

But I dunno, maybe I’m wrong. I have made a friend over the internet recently who nags and nags at me to meet him in person… now I don’t want to do that because I feel… well, I don’t want to. I’m a quieter person and from past experience meeting net friends doesn’t always go well. In fact, it’s really kinda awkward if the other person is not overly confident too, there’s a lot of deafening silence and humiliating small talk. I’ve figured out, at least one of you needs to be some kind of mental. =\

Someone help me determine: lack of confidence or wretched procrastination?

this quality has been elusive for me, but I’ve attained it at times. Just being totally secure with myself and feeling good about myself has been an issue. I act like I”m older, but I look young. I’ve been underestimated in this way many times, and I don’t know how to overcome confidence barrier.

want to be more secure/confident and beat my
schizophrenia and depression with new vision on life..

so i get nervous, often, in various situations. it’s weird, because there’s not really a lot of people i’m uncomfortable around, but i am a bit different than other people… i like stuff that not a lot of people i hang out with get i guess, like indie music lol (not that i’m an indie kid or anything), i love art, i feel bad for everyone, and my jokes are more mean like a guy’s would be. i like to be really artistic, all the time, and it probably doesn’t help that my boyfriend and all our friends are jocks and party-lovers, and all the girls who we talk to interests involve shopping and parties. it’s not that i’m not girlie either, i just don’t understand why drama is more important to those girls than friendship, i don’t think attention is worth that much… ouff now i sound bitter lol, maybe i am. so i’ve just decided that to become more confident, i need to stop being so hateful and love people for their positive traits, rather than hate them for their negative traits :], and hopefully by doing this i can love myself more too; i guess we’ll see lol ;P.

Yay… almost there! Let me tell you why… I am really skinny and usually I try to hide my body because of that. I keep telling myself everyday that I look ugly and that I need to gain more weight to look prettier, but I always doubt myself. I used to compare myself to other people who I think is “pretty”. I thought that ALL my friends are all good looking and I’m the only one that’s not. I used to look in the mirror everyday and dread to look at my own face.

One day my mom and I decided to go shopping for our bathing suits, and while I was trying on this black two-piece swimsuit in a extra small (believe me it looked sexxyy, so I had to get it), I just thought to myself Gosh, what if I didn’t have this body of mine, the more I wouldn’t feel comfortable in a swimsuit. Then I remembered all the comments I get from my friends; “Oh my gawd, Christine (that’s my name)! I wish I had your figure.” or; “Wow, you should cherish your body, you can be a model!” And that’s when my self esteem boosted up BIG time. So, I stopped obsessing over how “ugly” i thought I looked, and looked at the features that makes me beautiful. And I think everyone should start doing that.

Although I accomplished most of my goal, I still think I just at least gain some weight (I’m 5’1 and 89 lbs., so I hope you get why I need to). Despite that, I still think that I’m beautiful. Wish me lots and lots of luck!

(Please note that I am not putting anyone down based on this entry)

I’m off on a night out with friends tonight, normally I have loads of fun with them then clam up if any strangers talk to us but I’m gonna try being more confident tonight and rather than worry what people think about me, just let loose and have fun!

After reading people’s experience on becoming more confident, I have decided, that the most important thing is, not caring about what others might think of me.

I started doing this today, and of course, felt good. I still think to much about it. So, I’ll try to not do it for a while and get back later on.

Even though it’s early days my new vegan diet has really boosted my mood and my confidence.
I’ve lent a book on public speaking from the library and hopefully it’ll have lots of tips on how to boost your confidence and be less shy.

I improved my confidence a whole lot during the past couple weeks. I spent the night at a hotel with my friends, and they brought a couple of guys, and I REALLY like one of those guys, and I guessed he liked me too. So we talked a whole bunch on Myspace, and he asked for my phone number. And we asked each other out, now I have a boy friend! I never thought that could happen. That’s when I gained so much confidence.

And after all that, I started talking to more people, socializing more to my friends’ friends, trying to make the smallest small talk, into a huge topic, and that’s all turning out pretty well. Now, I could socialize without being all shaky and shy.

But here’s the catch, I still don’t feel confident about my body, I’m so scrawny and I barely have any curves, so I’m working on gaining weight to improve my appearance and my confidence/self esteem. Wish me lots and lots of luck!