learn to follow my heart

sometimes, my heart will very quietly whisper something to me. Other times, it practically yells at me (if I’m doing the wrong thing). But lately…nothing. What am I to make of this? Maybe I just need to relax and let things ride for a while.

... following one’s heart is always, always a work in progress.

By the way, I think “following one’s heart” is about trying to be still and listen… following one’s best self, the self one wants to become.

It’s not the same as following one’s feelings, because, God knows, feelings can buffet, rise and fall, lead to impetuous and stupid actions, and sometimes come from the inner whiny brat, not the inner wise mature cool bright person who makes choices that lead upward.

So, I think following the heart also involves using one’s mind. To unite the two, with the heart fixed in the right place, and then act: that, when I can do it (again, always a work in progress), really seems to me to be one of the basic skeleton keys of life… that is, it opens many many doors, inside and out.

The brilliant therapist David Schnarch writes somewhere “Have your feelings, but don’t let them have you.” “Listening to my heart” always, for me, has to do with checking what part of myself feelings are coming from.

I picked this image because of the illumination that shines on a lovely country road, not unliked many I have walked while trying to figure out what my best and truest heart says, and how to follow that with integrity in my life.

how come I don’t do this more often?