stop worrying

Guess I feel better knowing that 2,014 other people are also trying to stop worrying!

i realized in my therapy that i’ve been trying to figure it all out ahead of time again, a futile exercize often that leaves me older than my age, too serious, and missing out on the adventure of exploring, not knowing, and not worrying about the what ifs of life you can’t control. it’s like the alchohol anonymous creed, the wisdome to know the difference. People make plans, i was reminded, and god laughs.

Look for the positive in every thing. Don’t focus on the negative.

I’m not sure how I came to develop this chronic worrying condition. I worry about every little thing, that really, when you take a step back and think about it, is just so trivial. It doesn’t even matter. I tend to enlarge my worries to the point where I almost have anxiety attacks! It just really drains you, and makes you lose your focus. Another thing is, it makes me extremely emotional (which is another goal I’m working on). I need to stop worrying.

I read somewhere once that when you catch yourself in the act, you should tell yourself out loud, “Stop this right now. I do not need to tell myself this story”. I think it’s pretty good advice. Most of the time, when you worry, you’re just making up and imagining all these negative things that CAN happen. And until they actually happen, don’t start telling yourself a ridiculous story.

So, I’m going to try to work with this advice and see how it goes!

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I am starting to get nervous about my classes as my first day comes slowly nearer. I am really excited to go back to school and see all of my friends that I haven’t seen all summer, but I am scared that my classes will be overwhelming. I know that part of my worry is connected to my lack of self-confidence. Even though I have proved to myself countless times that I am really smart, I can’t seem to let it sink in. I always second guess myself. This semester, I need to change my mental attitude. I need to remind myself frequently that I can succeed, because I do have the brains and work ethic.

I work myself up and worry about things that dont even matter, it drives me insane i hate feeling like this but i dont know how to stop. its stupid things though, like if someone doesnt call me back i worry and worry that something has happened to them or they are mad at me, and its ridiculous!

- Corrie Ten Boom

I don’t quite know how to stop worrying about all the random crap I worry about. So I just try to keep my mind occupied with non-worrisome things. It works for the most part. I keep this quote in my silly little head and it helps a lot too.

....how many ways do i hate thee ? It can be a pain in the arse to live with, always considering the ‘what ifs’ and the ‘maybes’ – Just recently, after discovering this site, i came across another that gave me a new philosophical approach to my problems and worries:

“John C. Parkin argues that saying Fk It is a spiritual act:
That it is the perfect western expression of the eastern ideas of letting go, giving up and finding real freedom by realising that things don’t matter so much (if at all).”

Just lately, when faced with a problem that was causing me serious worry, i simply repeated the mantra ‘fk it’ – I felt better – the problem was still there and i knew i had to deal with it – but without the extra baggage of worrying about it. I could deal with my problem in a logical, rational manner and that was the key.

I’m a long way from being worry free, but I’m finding way’s to deal with it.

Lesson no.1 – ‘F__k it’

In Matthew 6:27 (NIV) which says, “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”