be a man

1. Make real decisions.
2. Put your relationships second.
3. Be willing to fail
4. Be confident
5. Express love actively
6. Re-channel sex energy
7. Face your fears
8. Honor the masculinity of other men.
9. Accept responsibility for your relationships
10. Die well

See Steve Pavlina’s article for more information.

I have too many people to rely on. Too many people backing me up/supporting me.

In general this is a goog thing but I haven’t learned to stand on my own yet. Like I’m not a man and won’t be until I’ve truly had to fend for myself.

My brother was late for his work the other day when I read his roster wrong and didn’t wake him up in time for work. He was so pissed off and made me feel horrible and my girlfriend was there and she was like ‘he knows how to set an alarm…’ and it was like a light switching on in my head. She’s right, it’s not my fucking problem. I take responsibility for everyone else without sticking up for myself.

Stop being a child, taking responsibility of my life

It seems to me that my previous conceptions of what a man is were incorrect…I am here now, more than a bread-winner. I come to you all, open-minded and self-assured.

I’m weak, submissive, and timid. The only girls that like me are corpulent and I cannot imagine myself stuffing one of those turkeys. I’d like a woman though, particularly a chunky one whose had to remind themselves of their greatness, beauty, what have you! That kind of mentality would be useful to me, as I’m always reminded of my weaknesses rather than my strengths. All I’ve had were friends who don’t need me to be strong, independent or even alive! And in a sense that allowed me to be the reciprocal: loathsome and useless. My parents put up with me, as I’m not entirely conscious of what I should be doing. Change does not come overnight, and I try to get them to realize this…so far, my father is unyielding and I’m beginning to suspect that I’m only taking advantage of my mother’s kindness. So, I plan on implementing my father’s mentality into her. I realize a mother is to be nurturing but there comes a time-despite how ignorant their child have become-when you need to put your foot down. Since she wont…I will. She speaks to me kindly, buys into my lies, etc., all to avoid conflict. Her role in my life has been to be there for me when I’m weak…it’s always been. Ever since I was a child, I remember tormenting my brother then running to my mother’s cover when I became threatened. And now, 20 years old-it’s still the same story. I’m still running but I’m falling short of breath. I don’t want to run any longer. One can only flee for so long…

A real man can controll his mind and body! A real man should be able to take responabilities, to survive without nothing, to think and to love and respect women.
He has to be fit, smart and openminded.
This is a never ending quest… and I like it:D

Shit. I’m a pathetic excuse for a human being, let alone a man. I need to face all my problems and get a good job and get my own place and stop mooching and find me a woman.

twas good

A man is strong: strong of heart, mind, body, and spirit, but above all spirit.
A man does what is right, no matter who tries to stop him – even if it is his beloved.
A man never forsakes wisdom and understanding, but doesn’t let emotion stop him.
A man leads, guides, and – above all – loves his beloved and never forsakes her no matter how much she hurts him, and is willing sacrifice all for her.
A man is courteous to others, and chivalrous to all women, no matter what they look like or act like.
A man strives toward masculinity whiile learning to love and value that which is feminine.
A man defends the purity of girl moreso than even she does.
A man protects the weak, honors his wife, and always puts others before himself.
A man is made in the image of God, and tries every day to live up to the enormous expectations and responsibility that entails.