stop getting so angry

I’ve lost a lot of friends because whenever I can’t handle a lot of stress, I lash out at everyone around me. I hateeeee it!

I (mark) Need to learn to take a deep breath sometimes, instead of lashing out like a childish fool.

Ohhh! I have to do a lot of work here!! I am sensitive person and I get easily angry with people who ignore me or misunderstand me. But getting angry doesn’t help me, it makes the situation worse! I become stressed, nervous and I cannot concentrate on my life and my work! I lose a lot of energy and time because of that!!! Sometimes I behave in a way which I regret after calming down.

But I can’t help it, I just can’t control myself when something happen that I don’t like!

Any advice? What do you do to control your anger?

In all seriousness, I had to learn to simply LET IT GO. Getting angry about things doesn’t do anything but give YOU ulcers. Anger exacerbates the situation; DETERMINATION, FAITH and STRENGTH is what improves it.

Feeling fine and happy one min, the next BOOOM!!!! Something silly will happen like I drop my toothbrush or someone drives too close to me and that is it I just GO MENTAL. It’s so not like me. Never been an angry person, always cried through frustration rather than get angry. Feel like I have got constant PMT. My anger is about the past, things I can’t change, things people have done to me and how I have struggled on alone for the last 15 years with very little support. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who I would marry in the blink of an eye and yet he is getting the brunt of my anger. Its like he is being punished for every bad thing other people did to me in the past. Any advice? Already been to doc but I hate tablets. Feel its not something tablets will change.

Everything happens for a reason. Life is too short to be angry all the time. If you really think about it… nobody gets out alive, so why take it too seriously? Have fun and enjoy life. You never know when it will be gone.

Not out of the woods yet.

But I am able to better understand the mechanism of Anger, the nature of the trigger and the response.

I am most sensitive and get most angry at being misunderstood. Usually the anger is with the person who did the misunderstanding. Being misunderstood, even (and especially!!) about most insignificant things is that which invokes the “Deep System”. The Deep System (or the Id?) consists of brain modules closer to the autonomic system, the system which is always on auto-pilot, the system which is responsible for breathing, heartbeat, organ function, regulation of chemicals, hormone and protein secretion, digestion, fight-flight-freeze response, cell growth and death, ....

Some of the Autonomous responses can be extremely dangerous. The Deep System functions blindly on auto-pilot, thinking it is defending the whole organism. What may have been a slight injury to the ego becomes perceived as an attack on the whole being.

there appear to be strong ties between the ego and this deep system.

events which trigger this autonomous response point to mental (cognitive) structures which externally reflect the tension in the body outside of the deep system.

In the past 6months or so I have been able to UNDO some rather chronic sore spots in the neck and shoulders. Many of those were identified as “chips on the shoulder” types.

It appears as though those abovementioned points of tension have not returned, even though the subsequent UNDOING of those parts has not been as thorough, but mere maintenance.

The mental structure reflecting the body tension seems to have dissolved with the body tension.

...The consciousness that is a function of the body…

...what other consciousnesses are there….

one consciousnus,
many consciousi

I get angry still, but not so angry that I start breaking things. I am in better control of my anger by keeping awareness of it at all times, and at making an escape if and when it begins to escalate.

well i know i over react sometimes, but dont we all. Tori(my best friend) says that i have a ‘snotty’ problem, that i am selfish and rude sometimes. my dad is bi-poler and sometimes i wonder if i have it aswell. I cant help it sometimes though, i often blame it on growning up as an only child, because everything went my way and i am way to used to that.

I know WHO regulary makes me angry
HOW it happens is different.
What angers me about this person is the consistent cramming of varied and diverse data into the same structure, over and over again. This structure is very obsolete, irrelevant and useless even to that person right now. This structure cannot be dropped because it can still filter data. This gets me enfuriated as I find myself just another statistic thrown into this waste/food processor. Woe to anyone who can be filtered through. The fact that they even got filtered through is plenty to tag them as a lower life form.

The best I can do to protect myself and the other person from my anger is to keep distance.