let go of guilt

I need to let go of the past. I know people will roll there eyes but I got drunk at a party, I was there as a guest of a guest and got very drunk and sick. I also kissed a man that was I was not with. I need to let go of this it happened a year ago and I can not let it go. It makes me sick every time I think aoubt it. I need to move on and let it go

I am going to try to let go of guilt in my life while still learning from the experience. I manage to hold onto guilt very well from past relationships, past friendships, or even a guy flashing his headlights in anger at me in traffic. The challenge is how to release it…. any ideas?

Didn’t spend enough time with the kids, , spent too much time with this kid and not enough with that one, didn’t call my mom, didn’t finish cleaning, spent too much shopping, took a day off from work…went out with my friend after work for a drink , kids had to make their own dinner….It never ends! I am on a mission to let go of the guilt and start looking at what I need occasionally,...no,often.

ok when you read this you may think it isnt really a big deal but to me it really is as me and mum are extremly close..

So, i got through this dance auition and i get to dance at a footbll stadium but my friend never got in, but my mum was really proud of me so she taken me all the way to this dancing place and it was like a 2 hour drive and she even was late for work for me and then when i got there i didnt know anyone.. so i said i wanted to go home, so she went mad at me because she drove all that way for nothing and she bought me loads of presents and told evreyone at work about me getting through! What am i supposed to do i feel sooo bad!! =[

This is something I’m working on constantly, my guilt tends to send me into avoidance of the people related, which triggers more guilt, than more avoidance etc…. Whats helping is a Valuable lesson I learned recently was about Boundaries. I used to have none, I though i just liked to be extra nice but I realised it was really destructive, heres a quote I found usefull by some guy or gal unknown “I will not ‘should’ myself to death, I will try ‘could’ instead, and then I will be able to be there when the real ‘should’ comes along” !!!

I have a tremendous amount of guilt in my life for someone who is generally a good person :-/ weed has been my latest “guilt trigger” i am turning 16 and i occasionally smoke weed at parties and with friends. i hate how i feel bad about it! i know its bad for me but i live with the consequences. i was at my lowest when i last smoked about a month ago. i was shaking and crying. i had to confess to my mom so that i would be able to go on. it sucked. i felt like puking. my relationship with my mom is close and we are open about stuff and i guess not following house rules really gets to me… i wish i could smoke and not feel this way but i know i’d never get permission from my mom and im scared to do it again… maybe someone here is in a similaer situation and can help…

It has become apparent to me in recent weeks that my guilt is really the biggest problem I have. I struggle with it all the time. It makes me indecisive, anxious, doubtful, unfulfilled, discontent, etc. All of these maladies, I believe, stem from the guilt that I feel daily about even the smallest things. Nietzsche referred to guilt as “Godlike” but I’m not so sure. I don’t think that God second-guesses everything He has done and then wonders until He is SICK if it was the right thing.

I feel that if I could overcome my inherent need to feel guilty about EVERYTHING that I could somehow be freer. Freer to follow my goals. Freer to let go of the circumstances that are my life right now. Freer to be spontaneous and live. But, I can’t seem to do that. No matter how hard I try to NOT feel guilty, I do anyway. Guilt, guilt, guilt. My days are plagued.

“How tedious is a guilty conscience!” John Webster said, and it is true. Tedious and tiring too. But, I’ve not committed a crime. There is nothing formidable that I have to be guilty about; just everyday life. I beat myself up with the small things, the tiny things said or done or, more often, the tiny opportunities not taken.

Perhaps I don’t know what I’m guilty about. Or perhaps, I’m plagued with equal amounts of guilt and regret. I don’t know. I do know, however, that I have to let go of something in order to live more fully.