decide where to live

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As time passes, things seem to get increasingly less clear! For a little while I was sure we would end up living near my family, however, now I am not sure whether we will live near either family. I desperately want to live near one family or the other. Traveling to see both families all the time would just be exhausting in my opinion. I don’t know what to say or do anymore. This isn’t really that important until my husband comes home from deployment, but it’s constantly on my mind!

if the market gets better or I have a brick hit me in the head I will change my mind.

that I’ll stay for at least the rest of the year and see what happens with the market. I also have more opportunity for education here and it would make moving more advantageous if I have a bachelors degree. So first finish the upstairs and start on the basement then re-evaluate the market then if still down enroll in college for engineering degree. I think this will be the best plan.

pros for staying…

I am good at my job and I love it. I have fixed up the place so it is better than it ever has been. My family is here. My church is here. I have a few friends here.
The national parks within a short distance are amazing. I know all the roads here. I have a past here that is not all bad.

cons for staying…

I do not like my neighbors and they do not like me. I do not like living 3 blocks from where I grew up. I would like a change. My family lives here. I have a past here. I could do better financially. The world is a great big place and I have seen so little of it.
The amount of work that needs to be done is daunting.

the more I look at my options the more staying seems to be the right choice. But I really want to move so it is like logic versus emotions. I don’t have wars like this in my head very often. Logic usually wins but right now I’m rooting for the underdog of emotion while recognizing that logic is the stronger player. I think I will continue to fix the house keep it for sale and see what happens. Not a fun place to be when you just want feel like you are doing something. So for now I will do something each day to better this place so if I stay or leave I can at least be doing something…

Would like to really start over where no one knows me. Get away from the drama and really live my own life. Learn to be alone and not lonely. Learn to be truly self sufficient and find my way without the influences from my family and past. Is this possible? Do I really need to move to do it? If so where? I have a job I love here I am meeting the finances and have great possibilities here. I need to decide if it is really worth the risk to just leave it all…

My family has lived in NW Calgary for 20 years. We have adult children and teenagers. We have been in the same community for 10 years and are planning a third move, into the same neighbourhood. The first neighbourhood was great, for awhile, everyone split-up or moved. The regular smiles, waves, get togethers and chats moved too. The present neighborhood that we’ve live at for two years is just disappointing. Nice homes, nice cars, beautifully landscaped BUT the people are total SNOBS. No waves back,they turn their heads a different direction to avoid any connection—Nothing. We thoght perhaps it was because we were the last to move into the cul-de-sac but after watching how everyone related to others we soon discovered that NOBODY is acknowledged. So, here we go again, we are moving ,only 4 blocks but just maybe the neighbours will be able to lift their arms to JUST indicate some friendliness or maybe a smile to say “Hi, I know you live on this block.” Well at any cost, I know that our family will wave and smile at everyone. Why not? Beanie03

So long story short…My husband’s family is from Texas and my family is from Michigan. Our problem is basically deciding whether to live near his family, my family, or in between. We, of course, each want to live in our home state. He says he will compromise by living half way in between, but I really want to be close to my family. I don’t know what to do. It is so confusing, but it feels good to get it of my chest!

ok i’m getting married in august of 2009
right now i live in BORING mount holly, NC and my boyfriend lives in stanley.
and hes never been outta North Carolina besides to Myrtle Beach and i’ve always wanted to live in NYC. been there once going again soon. but i dont want to bc my dad is burried in Charlotte and my mom will be one day as well. also our families are here and i dont want to be so far we’ve gotta get on a plane to come to my dads grave or for Sunday dinner or something
so
HELP!!!
myrtle beach is my optimal choice right now but he’s worried about storms
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