make peace with my parents

Since my parents and I made peace awhile back, my husband and I have visited them for 2 Thanksgiving holidays, and just recently, they visited us where we live for a week. We all had a blast too! My parents still have their quirks (as do I), but the great thing is that we’re able to talk over past things, and laugh about it all :) It’s obvious that we’ve all grown up and accepted each other much better! I anticipate continued visits in the future :D

For many years my parents and I conflicted for various reasons. Whether it was their lifestyle, my attitude, their obscure choices or my rash actions, we simply couldn’t see eye to eye.

When I moved away from their home at a young age and decided to drop out of college, this created an enormous amount of distance between us.

During the next few years they lived their lives and I lived mine. We didn’t communicate for a long time, and when we eventually tried to reconnect, the past hurts were still very much alive and blazing.

In between all of this, I met my now husband and once we were together, I noticed an odd change from within me. Being with him brought out the best in me; that positive side of myself that had been concealed for so long. With him, I felt like I could do anything. He gave me a new sense of life and I found my wings again. I could ‘fly’ once more, and in feeling this surge of energy, I began to face all of my demons head-on.

When my parents and I touched base again, they could feel it too. It took them awhile to come around and really believe that I was different, but seeing them in person after so many years proved to them that I had grown so much mentally, spiritually and even physically. As my mom told me, I had this glow about me that radiated, and my dad said it was the happiest that he’d ever seen me.

In changing my mental state and perspectives, everything around me changed as well. For the best.

While I credit my husband for being my inspiration and mentor, I credit myself for making the choice to change and doing it!

My relationship with my parents is currently the greatest it has ever been. When we speak, there are no longer any triggers or anger. We converse with one another in a respectful, loving manner. Issues from the past are now resolved and are never thrown out with a malicious intent. If they are referred to, it’s purely done in reflection and is seen as a celebration of how far we’ve come and how much we’ve grown.

At the present day, my life is truly satisfying in every aspect!