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IrinagenijeftwQuestions and answers

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

I always feel at the same time like me at any age so far – at four, shy and naive, at six, playful and worry free, at ten, so serious about studying, at thirteen, so insecure, at sixteen, angry and unfitting, at nineteen, brave and seizing, at twenty two, lost but holding on…

2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?

Never trying, of course.

3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

Some things we don’t like we do to survive, or for others, that is what mature and selfless is supposed to be.

4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

I will try not to.

5. What is the one thing you’d most l ike to change about the world?

Injustice.

6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

The work I intend to do. Writing and taking care of my family.

7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

With all my strength, I resist settling in.

8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

I wouldn’t.

9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

My parents were quite liberal, I am the one who is making the decisions that guide my life.

10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

Both, I do what I think is right and everything I do, do well.

11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

I would defend my friend.

12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

Be yourself.

13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?

Without thinking.

14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?

Yup.

15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?

The things that happen in my mind.

16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?

Because not everyone is me. .

17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?

Just time. I will get there.

18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

Some people I thought were my friends.

19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?

France, despite the immigrants.

20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

No.

21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?

Either, just not this terrible aware mediocrity.

22. Why are you, you?

Genetics and surrounding.

23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

With all my strength.

24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

The latter.

25. What are you most grateful for?

My family and my boyfriend. And my health.

26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

The past ones.

27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?

The truth is not that simple.

28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?

No.

29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?

It does and it doesn’t.

30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?

Family and playing. I was worry free.

31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

All the time.

32. If not now, then when?

When the time is right.

33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

That is unrelated. Some things you just need time and energy to achieve… Not everything in life is ad hoc.

34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

It’s called a blissful silence.

35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?

Hah. That is not love that they support.

36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

Everything is both.

37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?

No.

38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

Less work.

39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?

No, just this once.

40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

Every day is that day.

41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?

My boyfriend and my family.

42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?

No. Nonsense.

43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?

What is in your head.

44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

It is called intuition, and with reason and feeling, together it makes a decision for your every action.

45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

Because no one likes pain. And it is stupid only to learn from your own mistakes. This means you would only learn not to jump off the cliff after you’ve already died doing it.

46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

I would be just less stressed.

47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

Whatever.

48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

Yes.

49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

Some of it, surely.

50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

It is not that simple, stop trying to oversimplify. We are responsible for our decisions, but we are not alone in this world. 2 months ago


alysse1411 & 12

11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

I would interject and say something along the lines of “she’s actually very nice…” and make it clear that she is my friend and point out her good points, correcting anything they’ve said that isn’t true. I would do it in a way that wouldn’t necessarily be criticizing, or aggressive towards the people saying it. And if they’re the sort to get upset about that, then my previous respect and admiration for them was probably misplaced!

It’s not ok to let people bitch about your close friend and do nothing just so they will like you more, why would you want them to like you!?

12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Enjoy being a kid! When you’re little you can’t wait to grow up, but when you’re grown up you wish you were a kid again! Oh and pay attention in school. :-) 3 months ago


alysse1410. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

Doing things right.
I generally trust my gut to do the right things, and I rarely regret my decisions, so that doesn’t really worry me.

Doing things right does worry me… especially uni work! I tend to be a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to assignments, and often I get so worried about doing them right that I put them off! Which is stupid I know, but I do always get them done in the end!
In fact I am procrastinating over uni work right now! :-( 3 months ago


germander32. If not now, then when?

Very timely question. I’ve heard it posed before and it seemed important but still didn’t grab me at the time. After all, sometimes the answer will still be, “Not now.” That’s how it goes.

So I guess I like a rephrase of this question more than this question itself – what can I be doing right now that will help me clarify my goals and meet them?

So much of the advice I hear is designed to motivate a person to excel after they already know what it is they are after, and that seems useful but also kind of silly to me, because knowing what you want can be very motivating in and of itself.

What I really need is help discovering what it is I want to make of myself, and to find that out, I’ve had to go on quite a journey (which I am still on) to learn how to believe in myself and in what I do have to offer. It’s been quite a ride and as of today, I say it is 100% worth it.

So, what now? 4 months ago


nicolasc will be out of the picture a lot. 6 months ago


nicolasc will be out of the picture a lot.50 Questions Half-Assed Answered

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? I wouldn’t have a number in mind. I would just be who I am. Remember – no matter where you go, there you are.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying? never trying.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? We allow ourselves to be distracted by things that are not important in the big picture. We lose perspective on how short our life really is, and we only think in terms of the short term.
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done? Probably, LOL!
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? People being jerks to each other.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? Vagabond traveler.
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing? A little of both.
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently? Probably work less and be on the computer or watching TV less. I think I do so already much less than the “average American,” but they are technological opiates.”
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken? I have made choices and worked for goals within the context of what I was handed. I would have liked to be more of a risk-taker, but I worked so hard to get at least a few rungs up from the bottom that I let fear of losing that impede me.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things? Doing the right things, most definitely.
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do? I diplomatically let them know she’s a friend and say that, I understand everyone has different experiences with a person, and it’s unfortunate if they really did have bad experiences with that person, but that as her friend, I can’t listen to people talk that way about her.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? Define yourself, make your own rules, don’t let others tell you what you should do with your life, and don’t be a D!¢< to people.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one? Depends on the situation, but possibly.
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? Hmmm…more often I’ve seen creativity that later turned out to be insanity.
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people? I think I make odd connections between things in my brain. I would have said my synaesthesia makes me different, but I am finding that more people seem to have it than you would expect.
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? I’m not everyone.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back? Start a business or live overseas. Money.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? Yep.
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why? Virginia or North Carolina or Denmark. The first two because they are pretty and affordable and familiar, the last one because I like the people and the culture and it’s familiar.
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster? no and no
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? Joyful simpleton.
22. Why are you, you? Because I am me. Of course.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? For the most part, though I think most of my friends are better at frienship than I am.
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you? The latter.
25. What are you most grateful for? My son.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? Oooh, tough. I think not be able to make new ones, mostly because I would not like to lose the memories of ZH’s childhood and my family members that have passed on.
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first? nope.
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true? nope, thank God.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now? Yes, I remember, and as far as it mattering – yes and no. There are pros and cons to everything we experience.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special? Sitting outside in the sunshine. Just being able to be.
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive? Traveling with ZH.
32. If not now, then when? When I take action.
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose? Sanity, from being overburdened.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? Yes.
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? Religions don’t cause wars. People cause wars. They just use religion to justify them.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? Pretty much.
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job? A million bucks doesn’t go very far these days, so probably not…
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing? Less work. I can do things I enjoy in my off time.
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? Kinda, yeah.
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? WTH? This is a little touchy-feely for me, guys…
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? My son and my grandmother.
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? no. I don’t care for fame, and I’m already extremely attractive. ;-)
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living? Well…cheese is alive. Truly living means feeling the vibrancy of life and the awe of creation and using every second to experience it.
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? When you are prepared to lose what you have.
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake? Because it is like ripping off the bandage – you know you have to do it, but you also know it hurts.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? I can’t say here. :-)
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? Last night in bed, when I noticed my lungs were still kind of crackly.
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? MY SON. I just asked him, and he pointed to his dinner plate. (His mouth was full of tortilla chips…)
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that? I doubt it.
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you? Both. As are you.6 months ago


Inglorious nonconformist 16 months ago


Inglorious nonconformist41 - 50

41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
- my family

42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
- yes

43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
- hard to explain

44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
- when shit is too much

45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
- what a gross question! who want to fail at the first place?

46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
- naked, braless, have countless husband or men.

47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
- few hours ago when I was meditating

48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
- knowledge & wisdom. not applicable.

49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?
- maybe yes, maybe not.

50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
- I’m making it but I wish life could do me a favor. 6 months ago


Inglorious nonconformist31 - 40

31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?

32. If not now, then when?
- until i’m very sute it’s the right time

33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
- I need to lose(pay off) my energy & time to prepare, do my h/work. This is the cost.

34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
- not yet

35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
- Deuteronomy 2:32-34 ~ sound like God want want his people to war & kill even towards women & children! Is this really `God’? where is the mercy? In Quran, there are many anti-Jewish sentences. are these sacred words to spread love? so, to answer this question, my answer would be: because of the idiocy of earthlings.

36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
- absolutely!

37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
- absolutely!

38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
- less

39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
- no

40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
- maybe, Jan 2013. when i decided to try harder. I always gamble to take risk, but i’m not a gambler. 6 months ago


Inglorious nonconformist26-30

26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
- Lose all old memories. Fresh restart.
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
- sometimes, yes.
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
- yes.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
- good question. yes, still matter bcz it’s matter of principle.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
- spent time with my grandmum & cousin. just a simple, crude village life. 6 months ago


Gho-s-t 2 years ago


Gho-s-t50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

:) 6 months ago


Gho-s-t48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

I love my family.

49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

definitely will remember today, today is that day.

33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

Nothing at all. 6 months ago


Gho-s-t47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

just as I wrote this, cheers for reminding. utterly pointless. 6 months ago


Gho-s-t46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Everything I am doing right now. :) 6 months ago


Gho-s-t45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

Avoiding mistakes spreads into all of your being. I have had only bad references with regards to trying something new and thus that fatalistic view that nothing will ever work out is the first thing that creeps into my consciousness.

the keyword however is ‘had’ :). I am making mistakes now and its overdue. 6 months ago


Gho-s-t43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?

Living is doing what your soul calls you to do, its purest desire without hesitation and without allowing others to taint or contain it.

44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? When the risk is high and the payback is low. :) 6 months ago


alysse149. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

A lot actually… I do what I want, I can be strong willed, and independent. I’ve been and will continue to go places that I want to go. I studied what I want to study, and will continue to study and get experience until I get the job I want. I associate with the people I want to and sever ties when they have a negative impact on my life. While I do believe that everything happens for a reason and go with the flow and what feels right, if something is not right I am not afraid to change it.

I want to be able to look back know that I got where I am by my own choices, not someone else’s. 6 months ago


alysse148. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

Well I’m currently 24 so I’d still have 16 years left, so yay for me! I’d make the most of it. Travel a lot and see the world, spend lots of time with my family and friends, perhaps less time on my own. Wouldn’t settle for anything that didn’t make me happy – not that I do now, but I would probably set about making those changes more quickly. I’d make sure not to put things off, thinking I’ll do that in the next few years… Just do it. 7 months ago


alysse147. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

Currently I’m settling for what I’m doing, but not for long. I’m leaving my job to go back to uni to study environmental management so that I can get a job in that field, which is what I believe in and what I want to do most in the world. 7 months ago


alysse146. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

Environmental work. Working to save endangered species, by protecting and improving their habitat, planting preferred food plants, improving breeding success however possible – that sort of thing.

Also wildlife rescue. 7 months ago


germander46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Wow, this is a great one to start with (and revisit, as needed).

I would dance. In public. And sing and stomp my feet and clap and smile and whistle and skip and bang on drums and, if the not judging part also included the law, I’d probably get high once in a while.

Mainly dancing though. 7 months ago


alysse145. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

The state of the environment. Global warming, deforestation, pollution… Breaks my heart to see our natural areas disappearing or being degraded. If I ever have children, when they are my age the world will be so different from how it is now, I just hope enough is done before we ruin everything completely. :( 7 months ago


alysse14 4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

I really hope not. I am normally someone who does what I say I will. And once I’ve made up my mind to do something, I do it. For me it’s the only way to live. I get frustrated with people who never act on their words, who might have a million and one great ideas but never do anything. That’s such a waste of time! 7 months ago


alysse143. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

Unfortunately it’s necessary to do things you don’t like – most people don’t like going to work but they do so that they can afford to live. When you work hard you can feel like you have truly earned it when you get to take a holiday, or buy something you really wanted. And sometimes we do things we don’t really like but we do it to make others happy. Sometimes we have to in order to make life easier, or to make someone we care about happy. Like seeing a movie you can’t stand because your best friend really wants to see it and no one else will go! Although I guess I’m a terrible friend, because I didn’t watch twilight when my best friend asked me to…

And I suppose the main things that stop us from doing the things we like are money, time and fear.
Like if you like travelling – obviously you have to work to travel. And maybe your job gives you 4 weeks holiday a year. So there’s the time issue. And depending on your job, salary, expenses, and where you want to travel, money is often an issue.
And sometimes we want to do things but are too scared. Like sky diving, or getting a tattoo (some people think they look great but are terrified of needles – I thankfully am not one of these people!). 7 months ago


indiannie_jonesThe questions

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
22. Why are you, you?
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
25. What are you most grateful for?
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
32. If not now, then when?
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you? 7 months ago


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