Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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“If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?”
- Lily Tomlin

After a recent “love” encounter, instead of feeling closer to him, I feel like we are a million miles away. 2 years ago

ugogrlSometimes love

is a mixed emotion. 2 years ago

ugogrlI believe these words with ever fiber of my being...

“All life is interrelated. We are all caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied into a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”
- Martin Luther King, Jr. 2 years ago

ugogrlGiving and Receiving

“The only gift is a portion of thyself.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You make a living by what you get. You make a life by what you give.”
- Winston Churchill

“Our abilities to give and receive are at the core of our capacity to create and experience true prosperity.

We each receive certain gifts when we come into this life. These gifts take the form of our special talents, interests, and attributes, as well as our universal human characteristics, such as our ability to love and care for one another.

When we do our best to live our truth and express ourselves as authentically as possible, sharing ourselves as we are genuinely moved to, we naturally give our gifts to others and to the world.

In return, we may receive acknowledgement, appreciation, validation, nurturing, love, and in certain circumstances, money or other material rewards. Receiving in these ways allows us to replenish the life force we have “spent,” which in turn enables us to continue giving.

So receiving and giving are opposite energies that are inextricably linked together in the natural flow of life, like inhaling and exhaling. If one aspect of that cycle doesn’t function, the entire cycle ceases to function and the life force cannot move freely. If you can’t inhale, you will soon have nothing to exhale, and before long, your body will be unable to continue living.

This may seem fairly simple and obvious, yet we have enormous confusion in this area. Many of us have difficulty with giving, receiving, or both.

In my observation, the more common problem is the inability to truly receive. There are a number of reasons why receiving is difficult for so many of us. Certainly, one factor is cultural conditioning. Giving is generally viewed as honorable and praiseworthy. Receiving, or taking, seems perilously close to selfishness, which has a lot of negative connotations for most of us.”

-Shakti Gawain 3 years ago

ugogrlMy lack of a meaningful intimate relationship

is making me feel lonely.
It’s not that I’m not having a good time when I’m out and about but after get-togethers with family & friends it’s evermore apparent that when the night is over, I feel lonesome.

I want somebody to share in my life. Somebody to celebrate the good times and those not-so-great-times. It’s a terrible wish, because it can’t happen, but I wish I were in my 20’s again because dating was effortless. 3 years ago

ugogrlLOL online silliness

“I’ve loved and been loved. All the rest is background music.”
- 85-year old with over 100 honorary doctorates

I was using an online dating website today when a guy 10 years younger then me popped up. I wasn’t interested in him really but let him chat me up anyway just not to be so shallow about looks.

Anyway long story short he asked me about my chest size because I mentioned that I’m curvy. I clicked him off with that. What are some guys thinking???? 3 years ago

ugogrlStill working on getting over him

this is taking longer then expected
the sad thing is we broke up over the phone…How lame is that!!! 3 years ago


I’m in a funk today. Guessing the break-up hit me harder then I expected.

It’s another crappy day (overcast & rain beckoning on the horizon) but I got my car washed at the church anyway because they are raising money for a local food pantry.

Went to Target for some shopping but nothing is pulling me out of this blah feeling. It’s not that I miss the actual HIM, I miss having somebody who lights up my life. (Corny as that may sound). 3 years ago

ugogrlQuote from Sophocles:

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.”

Before my last relationship I had sort of convinced myself that love may not be in my cards. I didn’t want to have to go back out into the dating world to “find” my match. In my 20’s & in some of my 30’s , it was fun, now newly in my 40’s it’s intimidating.

I feel as if I’m in a race against the clock. It would have been great if it worked out but we’re different people who want different things out of life right now. While the relationship was short lived it gave me a boost & it revved up my self-confidence.

I can finally admit I want a satisfying relationship and I’m not willing to settle for less. So, scary as it is, I’m going to have to put myself back in the game. Starting Sunday I’ll update my online profiles and add pictures. And instead of looking at all of the things that could potentially go wrong I’ll focus on the what might go right.

My attitude will be one of adventure. So look out single men in New York. I just may be what you’ve been searching for :-) 3 years ago

ugogrl“In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back.” - Charlie Brown, Peanuts

You said it Charlie Brown…

I had hunches that he wasn’t being truthful but he finally came clean last night confirming my suspicions.

So after 2 short months we are finished. I’m kinda numb about it. 3 years ago

ugogrlRough patch

Wondering which way to go.
All I’ve asked for is his honesty & I can’t be sure it’s what he’s giving me.

Maybe tonight things will make more sense. The text message I got from him really doesn’t sit well with me. He tried to explain it but still something doesn’t add up… 3 years ago

ugogrlMe and my new honey

had a fun last night.
We stayed in and watched some baseball.
I’m not really into sports but he was willing to carry
on a conversation while we watched.

We are looking forward to spending time together over the weekend.
So far so good. I don’t want to get too excited yet but it looks promising. 3 years ago

ugogrlI'm going on my second official date

with somebody I met at a party two weeks ago.
It’s going well so I’m hoping it continues.

Letting life flow. 3 years ago

ugogrlLOL i'm assuming this quote of Einstein's is tongue in cheek...

“If the facts don’t fit the theory, change the facts.”
- Albert Einstein

Is it possible to change the facts? I’ve got my fear so tightly wound around me I can’t seem to make a break.

My friends are encouraging me to “find a rich husband”. LOL
They are only half joking. But my criteria for a serious relationships involves more than money.

My theory is that “in love” and all of the chemical euphoria that goes with it, matters. Can I be so shallow as to look at somebody’s finances but not fall in love too?

I once knew a couple who treated their marriage like a business deal & it seemed to work for them. 3 years ago

ugogrlvalues in relationships

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
- Oprah Winfrey

Like-minded values and support. Is this too much to ask for in a relationship? A healthy self-respect and a healthy mutual respect between two people?
A sense of love that doesn’t mean personal compromise to the point of losing oneself completely in the relationship?

Somebody who is willing to ride the bus when the limo breaks down?
Or for that matter, somebody who is willing to laugh at the situation when the car overheats and realize it’s not the end of the world? 3 years ago

ugogrlBeen thinking about

past relationships and seeing how I don’t want to begin on the wrong note again.

I’m hopeful that something good will come of taking chances and risking my heart when the memories tell me be weary.

I am listening to a Buddhist Chant of the Heart Sutra 3 years ago


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