stop being a pushover

Its pretty hard for me, my whole life I always wanted to make everyone happy but latley its been hard. Im a junior in high school and I managed to go through my whole life without drama. But at a price, I avoid drama by trying to someone who I’m not, trying to MAke everyone like me, but I come off to people as being a pushover, someone weak, I keep telling myself to be myself but its getting pretty hard. I’m just scared of change. Is this normal or pathetic…

I really feel like a fool, all I want in life was to get married, have that white pickert fence, raise my daughter with morals and kiss my husband every time he walked in from work. What I have noticed is I have no husband , just a boyfriend for 7 years and he doesn’t walk though our door he stumbles through mine, after 7 years you would think we would at least live together, no I live here with my daughter and he spends the night every night and keeps his things behind his mothers I believe to avoid contributing to the family which in my perfect world is a family . Sure he is cute and the thought of him being with another sickens me, even though down deep I am sure he has. I am pretty girl, I need not to let him back in, I need to keep the door locked I need help I give in!

It took me all of high school to do it, but I finally accomplished it. By my senior year, I wasn’t handing over my homework to slackers, running errands for some lazy person, or volunteering for things no one else wanted to do.

And I’m way happier now.

i didnt know i was a pushover until 8th grade came
it was this chick i didnt like who told me she told me jemie why are such a pushover
and then like what does that mean
i didnt know what that meaned
i tried to stand up for myself and didnt turn out right i became more angry but nomore im not gonna be pushed around by other people anymore cuz i dont deserve being treated like that
like this chick told me to get a colored pencil for her and she was closer to it and she told me can you get it for me please..i wanted to be nice cuz i barely knew her ..then she keeps asking me to do stuff for her and omg i got tired of her asking for stuff .i shouldnt let people tell me to get stuff for them becuz they can get it thereselves and whocares if itd not nice i aint nobodys slave

last night i stood up to a guy who has been trying to get a few things out of me. i told him, “i don’t think i want to. sorry.” and he got mad and started saying some rude things. i got upset and ended up saying, “maybe another time.”
i think the reason i’m a pushover is because i can’t stand letting people down or making them upset, i just like to make other people happy, which usually ends up harming me in the end.
dljasldflsadj i’m so frustrated with myself.

i hadn’t even realized how bad i was until someone said to me today, “wow, kayla, you are really a pushover”. i was about to protest but i realized that i AM a total pushover- i let people take complete advantage of me, especially guys. i don’t know why i do it, but it needs to stop.

Once you finally get the gumption to stand up for yourself it broadens your world. No one can stand in your way. I’ve learned this and I am no longer going to let people get to me or stand in my way. This is my life and I am living it the way I chose.

I have always been tagged a nice guy. I am a yes man and I have a hard time saying no to people. 3 serious girlfriends have broken up with me and they all told me it was because i was a pushover. I am tired of this and i would apreciate any help, direction or success stories that might help me with this shortcoming.

Today I went into a pizza place that I haven’t gone to in a long time. The reason I stopped going wasn’t because of the food, which is completely addictive and even moderately healthy. No, the reason I stopped going was because there is a man who works there who hits on me every time I walk in. I tolerated it for a while, always reminding him that I’m married. But then one day he handed me napkins and then grabbed my hand and wouldn’t let it go for a very uncomfortable second. Being the coy, shy, pushover type, I just smiled and walked away (cursing him loudly with my inner voice).

But I mustered up the courage to walk into the store today, because I FELT like having pizza. I was greeted by him almost immediately as I entered the door. But I kept a stone cold face. “No smile?” he said to me. I just raised my eyebrows at him snobbishly, no smile. I ordered. “To stay?” “NO,” He had someone else ring me up and I left. I didn’t entertain his fancies one bit.

I’m so proud of myself for having stood up to this kind of behavior, which I’ve tolerated too much of in the past. A lot of women think it’s fun and flattering to get hit on. But it doesn’t really do anything for your self-esteem. It only confirms the belief that we are only worth what we look like on the outside. But it kills the way we feel on the inside. In a way it has always been my fault for having tolerated getting hit on. Now, I refuse to smile and laugh along!

I am so sick of being a pushover! I feel like I never stand up for myself! This has GOT to change!!