get over an ex

I am trying to make myself realize that because he is gone doesn’t mean I am. It will be 3 weeks tomorrow and I am not over him yet. We dated for a year, but were together just about every single day. He was an amazing person on the way deep inside somewhere. I put all of my faith in that he would change and be a better person, but the verbal abuse never changed. The hateful way about him never changed, he ghetto insides, nor pusher heart would never have seen the light for me and my daughter. He loved his life and wouldn’t have changed it for the world. And now that I think about it, it’s a blessing but still hurts. I know this is better for me and my daughter and I have to accept that God was really watching out for me on this one because this could have ended way worse, and was probably headed that a way. I want to love me and love who I can be no love who I could try to make out of someone.

its been about a month now and i still cant get my ex out of my head… everything that i do reminds me of her… i wish that things could be easier, but i kno life is not easy… we dont talk any more but i still find myself thinking of her all the time… what can i do???

We’re done, she adds nothing to my life, she is a drain on my finances and emotional energy, we have no future, she has no future… but I still like her. I need to get past her so I am more available for Mrs. Right.

1. What is it that I liked about her?
2. Can we still talk, even infrequently?
3. Are there still reminders of her around?

Okay, I’ve been “broken up” with him since 2006 and it is only now finished hurting me. The big over it deal came once he apologized for being such a jerk to me. After that, it stopped bothering me as much. Memories were just memories, not anything that should be ruined because the person is presently an asshole. He wants to be friends, but I’ll have to wait longer to let trust be regained.

getting over it is hard, we all know but
why waste your time on someone who you know would never love you again?
= move on.
dont make it hard on yourself,
if you find yourself thinking about them then
find a flaw about them that you really dont like
and your glad you’ll never have to deal with it again.
& while their avoiding you, just think im better than you anywayss.

He doesn’t love me and I love him. Time to move on…has been for a long time. just can seem to do it. Not sure if it’s because I haven’t met anyone who interests me or if it’s that I am closed down. Emotionally dead in a way. I just don’t understand how people can be so “on again/off again”. My love is real. My love is forever. I just don’t hand it out to anyone. Having it thrown aside really hurts. It made me wonder what made me so valueless? What is wrong with me? If he doesn’t want me then who would? I am pass that way of thinking but the fact that he still lingers in my life breaks my heart. He now has a new GF but remains friends with me. He knows how I feel but still rejects me. Still all the while keeping me by a thread. I know I should write him off but a part of me wants to be with him so badly that I just can’t let go. instead I remain alone with my tears in love with a ghost in a home we once shared. God that was depressing. I guess I am technically grieving so that counts as a step to getting over my ex. Someone agree with me because I need to laugh and I can’t see through all these tears!

It is definitely a big weight lifted. I feel better about things. And to think, it only took me 2 years to realize I wasn’t really losing someone worth holding onto…Amen

She has been like the never ending mindfuck.

So, I’ve been single for over a year now, and I still think about one of my exboyfriends. I want his thoughts to go away. I don’t want him back at all. I broke up with him. I want his memories to be real again. I don’t want to feel empty when I think about him. I want to know that he is happy and that I am happy even though we are apart. That there are no hard feelings between us.

So getting over an ex is this long, emotionally draining, confusing process. Your mind is worse than you’re heart at times because it causes you to go over and over things in your mind that really dont matter and actually just make you feel worse. Your heart is wounded and longs for all the attention and comforts of a relationship and its really hard to distinguish between your attachement to love and your attachment to a person. Ive discovered that I was more in love with love than I was with him. I discovered that I settled for certain things because of comfort and fear of being alone. I know now that it doesnt take a new guy, or another relationship to get over an ex.I mean, I date and I go out and I do my thing but theres no main man in my life and I’ve still been able to work through this. The most important thing to remember is that you will always hold your ex near and dear to you, they will always live on in your memory. But if you’re honestly able to look at the situation and appreciate what you’ve learned and you know with your entire being that the relationship was not the best for you, you’re over it. Just because you think of that person from time to time, or miss being around them, or remember special times, does not necessarily mean that you want that person back. Getting over someone happens gradually. You wont wake up one day and be like ” im so over him!” You jsut begin to look at things differently and think about him less and less. My ex is living with another woman and her baby from some other guy, I can honestly tell you I DONT CARE. If hes happy, Im happy. And thats where my involvement stops. I would not recommend rebound relationships however. Although they’re the easiest option,they dont fix whats actually wrong and you may project insecurities and fears from the past relationship onto a new lover. Im not ready yet. I find myself having issues when it comes to guys im really into. I sabotage on purpose, wanting them to leave before anything serious comes of it. I need to love myself more and be where I want to be in life. Then, & only then will I be ready for love again. Good luck to you all and remember EVERYTHING HAPPENS EXACTLY HOW IT SHOULD. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!