Allow yourself to be selfish. Of course, most of people who have low confidence or low self-esteem will think selfishness on a different level to what regular people might interpret it.
A regular person might think to be selfish is to ignore the fact that a pregnant woman needs to get into the taxi to get to the hospital but the person gets in before her because he is late to go to work.
Someone who lacks self-esteem might think to be selfish is to think of their own desires and acting upon them is disgraceful.
Yes, there are limits but indulge in yourself every so often. If other people do the things you keep yourself away from, why aren’t you allowed to do it as well? 5 years ago
So today I realize that people take advantage of the last couple of nice people that exist on this planet, and I seem to be one of them. I love being known to be nice but I lend people things that I paid for and they don’t come back. I feel like because I know the person they will obviously have my back and yet they seem to forget where they came from. I am tired of being walked all over, at work, at home, by guys…It gets old and I have to say that it will continue no longer! I am standing up and putting my foot down. 6 years ago
I usually don’t mind this because I have been used to this. Lately it has been bugging me because I’m being horrible to myself and finding things I don’t like about myself. I’ve been told by my husband several times that I keep getting walked on.
I enjoy being a nice person and I wish people saw it as being nice. I don’t like being taken advantage of and I expect other people don’t like it either. I’m also a quiet person, I barely speak my mind even for the smallest things.
This will be a gradual process but I would like to succeed in this goal. 6 years ago