Believe that I'm just as good as everyone else

.......i do believe that i’m just as good as everyone else!!!!.....but sometimes….people do stuf…..which pple like me..dont even think about it…...maybe iwant to change my perspective of the way i think….....like….

I believe that so many people look down their nose at me. I am glad that you are as good as any. I want to feel this way too.

I have low self esteem, this was caused by going to my high school. Many people hate me and would tell me the things I wore made me look like a slut or the things I wore were ugly and I was never told I was pretty/cute/whatever and I watched all the girls whore themselves out and get guys and if I were to do that I’d just be called a slut. I don’t want to have to whore myself out. And I want to believe that I’m pretty. Also, I want to believe that I am needed. I am adopted. There was someone who was a relative who wouldn’t adopt me because I am female. Instead he has the people most important to me and I was sent away basically. I want to believe that I’m wanted. I want to believe that I’m not useless. I want to believe that I’m just as good as everyone else.

Well, I’m 28 and only ever been in one relationship. I was sick as a teenager and have only just been able to get my health back after 14 years filled with pain and suffering. I lost the opportunity to develop maturity throughout my teen years as my friends all did. Throughout that time also, I’ve come to believe that I’m just no good, and that no girl I am attracted to will ever be attracted to or have any feelings for me. I try to lighten up and be more “loose” but it just drives them away. I then go back to being myself and the girls like me as a “sweet guy”, but just on the level of friends.

I feel so desperate about this situation that I have come to rely on pornography heavily as a substitute for real human contact, and I find it hard to be intimate with other people. I also get very jealous about other guys, when I see them with a girl, I can’t see a way out. I have two sisters, and yet I can’t relate to women in general? What the hell is that?

Am I screwed up completely????

Help :(.

I feel like I’ve done this. :)
Good luck everyone!

one thing i have to work on is not thinking im ‘weirder’ than everyone else.

i dont think this will be hard for me to compelete.
im more than half way there. =)

how do you go about this? :/

self confidence.
self appreciation.
self respect.
loving yourself no matter what.

this seems like a pretty difficult one, but something i REALLY need to work on. you can’t be truly happy unless you love yourself and realize you are an amazing person.

here is one thing i have learned; the girls who give you dirty bitchy looks or talk shit about you for absolutely no apparent reason; well all it means is that they are jealous of you. where as we usually take it as the opposite.
ex- “she said my hair looks horrible” [we tend to think- “oh god she’s right”!]
when in reality she is too insecure to compliment you nicely so she has to make you feel bad to make herself better.

Sometimes i find myself feeling inferior to other people for various reasons. I dont know why, because i know I’m not. I think it has come from relationships. Blah.

Totally agree with SusieQ333. I managed this with a combination of more sleep and getting out and about more. Dark flats can be a problem but just forcing urself out of the house and to see friends at least once a day will be the first step to everything falling into place.