learn patience

Everybody has a story.

Each person around you is writing a chapter in their story every second of every minute of every hour of every day. Each person has a timeline that they are traveling through. For many of the people you interact with daily, your place on the timeline is not the same as someone else’s place on theirs. Everyone is taking life at their own pace.

When you interact with someone, realize this—your story of how you got to this very moment is not always public knowledge. You have your own thoughts, desires and passions that shape your reactions to different experiences that you’ve had. Not everyone around you has had that same set of experiences. And you have not likely had theirs, either.

As you write down your story – based on the decisions you make and your reaction to things around you – bear in mind that what may be the last straw for you, on your timeline, may not even be an issue in someone else’s journey. So before you get mad, consider this – does the person you’re about to respond to understand where you are and where you’re coming from? Will they really see it the same way you do – once you’ve made your response? If the answer is not 100% yes, then there should be more thought in your answer. Period. I’m as guilty as anyone else.

Consider others. Everyone has a story – don’t start writing in red on someone else’s pages.

“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” -Colossians 4:6 KJV

“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” -1 Timothy 4:12

“Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with
so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the
sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the
race that is set before us, Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our
faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross,
despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of
God.”—Hebrews 12:1-2

A Prayer for Deliverance and Guidance
A Psalm of David.

1 Hear my prayer, O LORD,

give ear to my supplications:
in thy faithfulness answer me,
and in thy righteousness.
2 And enter not into judgment with thy servant:

for in thy sight shall no man living be justified.
3 For the enemy hath persecuted my soul;

he hath smitten my life down to the ground;
he hath made me to dwell in darkness,
as those that have been long dead.
4 Therefore is my spirit overwhelmed within me;

my heart within me is desolate.
5 I remember the days of old;

I meditate on all thy works;
I muse on the work of thy hands.
6 I stretch forth my hands unto thee:

my soul thirsteth after thee, as a thirsty land.
Selah.
7 Hear me speedily, O LORD;

my spirit faileth:
hide not thy face from me,
lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit.
8 Cause me to hear thy loving-kindness in the morning;

for in thee do I trust:
cause me to know the way wherein I should walk;
for I lift up my soul unto thee.
9 Deliver me, O LORD, from mine enemies:

I flee unto thee to hide me.
10 Teach me to do thy will;

for thou art my God:
thy Spirit is good;
lead me into the land of uprightness.
11 Quicken me, O LORD, for thy name’s sake:

for thy righteousness’ sake bring my soul out of trouble.
12 And of thy mercy cut off mine enemies,

and destroy all them that afflict my soul:
for I am thy servant.

Our plans are not always the same as God’s plan. Sometimes the path is unclear. Ask Him to be the light on your path.

Kisses are way better when they’ve been waited for.

Learn to be more patient

1. Develop a consistent philosophy of life. Take life one day at a time. Consider each day a gift of life that will allow you to get one step closer to your goal of growth and change.

2. Accept the reality of your humanity in that you are going to need time, effort, and energy to change and grow. You will experience some resistance to altering long standing, habitual ways of acting, reacting, and believing.

3. Reframe your perspective on the past, present, and future. Do not dwell on your past mistakes and failings. Do not worry about what you will become or how you will act in the future. Begin to live each new day as a fresh start.

4. Break larger goals down into components that are short term goals and objectives, more realistically attainable in the immediate future. Be systematic in planning your path to recovery and growth.

5. Accept, understand, and forgive yourself for being fragile, imperfect, and weak. You need to become your own best friend and cheerleader. Love yourself.

6. Wake up to the realities of life around you. Everyone with whom you come in contact is busy working through their own struggles, weaknesses, setbacks, relapses, crises, and obstacles to their personal growth and recovery. All of us are on the path to personal growth. There is no one exempt from this journey. It takes a lifetime to complete.

7. Hand over and let go of the worries, concerns, anxieties, and doubts about attaining your goal. Confront your fears about attaining your goal. Remember, the world was not created in a day. Beautiful symphonies, works of art, and literary masterpieces were not created in a day. A lifetime is not lived in a day.

8. Modify your spiritual perspective to include your God as a guide on this journey. Be ready and willing to face challenges as you strive for personal growth.

(Tips suggested by: http://www.coping.org/growth/patient.htm)

Give me patience.

Help me to be able to breathe in a time of tense situations.

Help me to be calm.

Patience Lord….

P.a.t.i.e.n.c.e.

Since now I understand what I am doing here, I think I can say I have done this.

The problem with patience is that I always focus on results and forget to enjoy what I am doing. I’m getting better at learning, but not enough, I think. Yesterday I went to a violin rehearsal with other students at school – and they were all advanced students! It was mortifying to me not to be able to play with them. But instead of giving up, I decided to think that in the future I’ll be able to do that and it’s only a matter of not giving up – it’s a matter of time. I think that if I were really patient I would not have felt that way, I would have enjoyed the opportunity instead of being worried about not being able to participate. So, I still have to work on that.

I want to be a pianist, but that is a hard job for me. My therapist said I am not confident enough, but I am getting confident with therapy. I realize now that it will be many years for me to get where I want to, so I must be patient and not demand too much from myself. There’s the whole life to learn and practice and the best way to learn is to have pleasure in whatever we learn. I am getting my pleasure back, I am enjoying what I can do. I hope I’ll play Mozart’s concerts someday!

to learn patience with my kids. I feel horrible when i lose my temper because they’ve pushed my last button. I have 8 year old twins and i know they’ll do that, but they seem to do it more than necessary. One will just tell me she doesnt want to do whatever it is i’ve asked her to do and then proceed to whine and cry about it and the other is just thick-headed and doesnt really hear you when you’re talking or remember something you’ve said just moments earlier. I think it’s the 2 of these hindrences combined that really make me lose it and then psycho mommy comes out. We dont like psycho mommy. I try everything i can short of spanking them because i really dont want to hurt them, i just want them to listen…HELP!