gain the courage to get divorced

how does one get the courage to do this?

It sounds like the key to getting to do many of your 43 things will happen if you can take the step to accomplish this one. I divorced 2 years ago and my life is so much better now. It’s not that she is a bad person, she just wasn’t right for me. I won’t lie, it sucks while it’s happening, but when you get on the other side you’ll wonder why you waited so long. Best of luck.

I personally know how lost you may feel. Contemplating something this serious can give a person such roller coaster emotions. I was married for 18 years. I wasn’t happy for 10 years. I often threatened my ex-husband with divorce, but I didn’t actually do it. One day I sat down and said to myself, that I need to look at other options in my life. What am I willing to give up, what am I willing to not give up. What is in the best interests of the children? Do they see me happy? No. Do they always heare me and their father fighting? Yes…Do the children want to see me happy and their father happy? Yes. I took everything into consideration, like looking into apartments. Considering my options. I didn’t make enough money to rent an apartment. But it was my choice to want to leave the marriage, so therefore, I will let the husband have the house. My income isn’t very high, so I considered low income housing, it took forever to find a place. I was on waiting lists, what seemed liked forever. One day I couldn’t wait no longer, I moved in with my now fiance’. We lived our own lives, I gave him money for rent, I bought all the groceries. It was difficult trying to make ends meet, with no child support from my husband. But I did it. I took what ever courage I had inside of me and said to myself, what won’t break me won’t hurt me. I lived for 18 years with a man I couldn’t see spending my life with. I know his heart was broke, but I always said to him I don’t see spending 20 years with you.

My ex husband and I had gone to three different marriage counselors. The end result being, always the same. No matter how many counselors we went to, deep down I just wasn’t happy with him. I had to do something to make ME happy.

2 years and 8 days the divorce lasted. I’m now able to do what I want without courts getting in the way of anything. I’m very happy where my life stands today.

Your courage comes deep within, once you are truthful with yourself about the fears of divorce you will be able to move on.
Find the reasons that prevents courage. List those reasons. Everyone deserves the chance to be happy. And if you are truely miserable in your life, it doesn’t take only courage, it takes determination. :)