be monogamist

How I did it: I fell in love. Simple as that. I married the third man that asked me, I searched and searched all over, and the whole time the person I was meant to be with ended up being my first crush and my very best friend.  I had been hurt in my past and I stopped believing in love and I stopped believing in a true commitment. I stopped believing in relationships. My husband made me believe in love again. If you want something, if you want to only be with one person forever, you can do it. When you truly love someone, being faithful is the easiest thing in the world. You don't think of others, you only want that one person. Forever.

Lessons & tips: Never, ever give up on yourself or the person you love. More importantly don't give up on yourself though...  If you believe it and you allow yourself to feel love and to be loved, then you will be loved. You have to believe that you deserve love, and not allow yourself to settle for anything less than giddiness. My husband makes me feel like a little girl on Christmas morning every single day, by simply walking into the room.

Love takes work. You can't just fall in love and expect to stay there effortlessly. You have to DECIDE you love someone and DECIDE to be faithful and DECIDE to work at it. Love is a choice, not just something super random that accidentally happens. YOU are in control of yourself, your emotions and hormones don't control you. Take control. Choose love, and choose to stay in love.

Resources: Only you can help yourself. If you want something bad enough you WILL find a way to achieve it.

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Dec 07, 2008, 11:17PM PST | 0 comments | 3 cheers