plan my funeral

I guess one should also figure out how online friends would be notified. The thought is extremely weird to me. Do you just assign someone to post a message on facebook in your name, or what?

I have a lot of very dear online friends though, who’d have to know.

My dad told me of a friend of his today, who died when they were much younger. The friend had been ill for a long time, and when he knew he didn’t have much time left, he told people what he wanted them to do at his funeral, so it would be special, and about him, not like any other funeral.
He had a list of his favorite songs he wanted played for example, and decided that everyone should wear blue, and not black, and that a bunch of balloons were supposed to be let go afterwards.
I thought that was a really nice idea, and I’d like to write down some ideas too, in private of course. And let’s hope I change my plans at least a million times before someone has to carry them out.

After my mother had a fall I automatically assumed everything was in order with my older sister for her to do the arrangements and this was not the case. What a daunting thought it was to both of us as we had no understanding of her wishes and neither of us were in a position to pay for it either. I was asked to approach my mum on the subject and she threw me out and hasn’t spoken to me since. I have four children and there is no way I want my partner or children to be subjected to the duress of planning my funeral. I went to the funeral parlour and decided to start a funeral plan as I am 42yrs and want something in place for when I leave this grand world.
17/02/09 As with the health plan it’s on hold for a month.
06/03/09 I’ve listened to a few songs recently that I’d like played at my funeral – All by myself / Flying without wings and One moment. Friend has recently been diagnosed with a brain tumour and the thought of mortality and leaving my children behind has dawned on me again.

I’ve stalled on this completely. Once school lets out for the holidays I need to get this wrapped up!

I was reminded of this during my meeting at the home…a funeral or memorial service is not for the dead. Its for the living. While our basic wishes should be honored, we need to build in something for the living…be it a time to gather with others to remember, to grieve, then to begin to heal. I’ve been to so many funerals…the ones that were most touching were when friends and family had a chance to come forward with a story or a memory. One service I attended, the gentleman was a Broncos fan, so there were orange and blue balloons everywhere. There was one with a DVD slide show of great photos and yet another where the deceased was honored by playing his favorite CDs during the service. I think all of that helped folks to remember the good and fun things.

So I go to the funeral home and its acutally quite nice. The sales dude was awesome and patient, he asked me questions I would not have thought of myself. After a tour of the memorial garden (Im considering cremation) we completed a preplanning kit. Now I’m thinking about what kind of music, scripture, or poetry I might want read at my own service.

The best discovery – its not morbid! Its a gift to my family, that everything is already taken care of upfront – rather than under duress. I’m very glad I’m in this process.

I contacted a local funeral home and recieved some info via mail. It was very informative.

well, mine was a joke, what with salsa music and my corpse being launched across the funeral parlor. But, technically, that’s my will, and they have to honor it.

I want to get costs and plan my funeral so my kids won’t be stuck doing it! It doesn’t mean I will need it any earlier and it will be complete and I won’t have to think about it again… ever!

I got the call Sunday night on 2/18/07 after 77 years he was gone, Papa had died. My grandmother and her six childern had to plan his funeral. It went rather smoothly I think, but I don’t want my survivors to have to go through that, especially at that time. Plus I don’t want everybody standing around at a calling/wake I just don’t see the point. But then again, I just don’t see everyone that I would want there being able to get there if the only service was the actual funeral anyway the point is I have to make the decisions and talk to my wife and make sure she knows what I want.