have more faith in myself

This is the foremost goal anyone can have. I am a chronic self-doubter (my name is Thomas after all). I never have confidence and therefore no courage. I think everything is beyond my control. I WILL find some way to change my self image to be more positive about my life and that I can control it.

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I still think I could have more faith in myself, but this isn’t a finite goal where there’s a certain amount of faith to be had. I definitely have more faith in myself now than I did this time last year. I’ve held a job for 10 months and my confidence has grown.

I’ve found a job starting tomorrow in a field I know little about, but they know that, so I’m nowhere near as nervous as I would have been. I’ll go there and find out what I need to do and ask when I don’t understand something. I know that I can do the job to the best of my abilities, and if it doesn’t suit them, I can find something else. It wouldn’t be the end of the world!

As with the goal on being less lazy, I will keep this one in check and bring it back if it needs more attention.

I ran for an office at my school. We had to do a speech in front of everyone which I was really worried about. I was about to not run ,but I always back out of things ,which I hate. So I swallowed my pride and ran anyway. I did my speech in front of everyone and I had to go first so I was really nervous because I’m a a shy person. I didn’t win ,but I’m proud of myself for doing something I never do which is believing in myself.

I’m considering this one done. I’ve grown a lot as a person over the past couple of years and made some very big changes in my life. I still have my days that are filled with self-doubt, but for the most part I have a lot more confidence in my abilities than I ever have before. I’ve learned that it’s ok to mess up and make mistakes because that’s how we learn and grow. I have imperfections, and I’m ok with that. I know as long as I am doing my best, and doing what I want to do with my life rather than what someone else thinks I should be doing, I’ll be ok.

can i even reach any of my goals????

I’m always constantly doubting myself and my own abilities. Everytime i come up with an idea i start questioning and questioning my abilities to pursue it. I dont know i wonder if other have faith in me! i think that when i tell my parents i’m going to do this, i want to do that they just seem to laugh it off- it guts me! I dont no how to overcome my fear, but i’m hoping to change this, get rid of negative people, negative ideas, feelings and do something new that might bring out a more confident person inside of me.

So I definitely have struggled with this for a while. I was always so worried about what other people thought about me. I always felt like I was never good enough, constantly doubting myself when I knew damn good and well that I shouldn’t. I finally found myself so worried and so scared beyond belief that I was struggling with who I was. I finally started seeing a therapist and, lo and behold, I had an anxiety disorder. Now, I do not think that everyone who doubts themselves has an anxiety disorder (that would be absurd!), but I just think that maybe my story might help. Things have been going much better in my life. I have managed to learn that once I stop beating myself up and constantly worrying about everything in my life then things run smoother than before. It might sound weird, but I’m actually grateful for all the years of doubt and struggle because I now know that I can get through most anything because of them. Take some time to sit back and think about where this self-doubt stems from. Family? Friends? Work? Honestly, I also recommend seeing a therapist to everyone at least once a month. Its kind of like an emotional and mental check-up. You learn more about you and what effects you in positive and negative ways.

It’s hard to trust my instincts because I have made bad choices in the past…I have learned from them, but I still feel unsure of myself at times…

I have absolutely no faith in my ability to do anything! In my eyes I suck at everything! Rugby, Netball, being a student, being a good person!!! I don’t know why I have this frame of mind but it haunts me averyday, in everything that I do and I think it hinders me and the opportunities I choose and choose not to take and the direction of my life! At the moment I don’t think I could break this mind set because it is so deeply threaded into who I am!! I want to but I don’t think I can and that makes me unbelievably sad!