trust my wife

My wife and I split and she went 2 days after that with another man. Im finding this hard to forgive and now that we are back together I have very hard time trusting her, since we got back together she gave me no reason to not trust her but Im on alert for some reason cant relax and this last weekend was a night-mare we fought so much about the trust issue.
P.S. I have control issues and anger issues as well.. working on it though.

and I asked her opinion about something with a measurement.

I said I was thinking something should be 4 1/2 inches high, and she said it should be 3 1/2 inches. When I said it should be higher, she said angrily, “Why do you ask my opinion when you just do what you want anyway?”

It opened my eyes, and made me realize I just wanted her to validate my idea, not have input. And I realized she was right – 3 1/2 was right after all. I gotta listen to her.

Something happened at work this week. I’ve been having some trouble over the last year with a female co-worker who I occasionally do projects for, but who I don’t report directly to. She’s not nearly as experienced as me, has never really done my job, but has no trouble telling me how to do my job. When she and I have a disagreement, I go to my boss. When she finds out I went to him, she blows up at me. That happened again this week, but it makes me see how my wife feels when I don’t trust her opinions.

And if I ask myself, “How am I like that?” I see some traits of my own that I really don’t like.

Hopefully, I’m learning something from all of this.

This isn’t about fidelity, it’s about faith.

On many occasions, I haven’t trusted my wife’s knowledge and opinions, and it usually comes back to bite me in the ass.

She’s a smart lady, but many times I think I know better than her, or I dismiss what she says. It’s wrong and I’ve got to stop doing it.