I am in the military and due to the specific job I hold, I work long hours, normally 12-14 a day plus 24 hour Saturday or Sundays about every other week. Because of this I do try to cherish every moment I have at home with my wife and 13month old son. My wife has a small online business where she makes some very specific costumes and costume type jewelery but typically only works about 4 hours a week. It’s not a big income, but its something for her to do, since we have decided for her to stay at home and raise our son. The other thing that my working hours require is that if something comes up. Calling to schedule an appointment or pay a bill, etc. I need to depend on her to take care of it. Most of the time, I’ll know it needs to get done, remind her the day before, that morning before I leave, and even a call in the middle of the day so she doesn’t forget. Then when I get home at night, the first words from her mouth usually amount to about a half hour of talking about Wow and something she accomplished that day on it. I used to try to follow this, I even tried to play a few times, but just not for me. Then when she’s done I’ll ask if she paid that bill or made the call I’d asked her to make. No joke, about 75% of the time her response will be something to the effect of “I didn’t think about it”, “I’m just braindead”, or “I just got sidetracked with leveling/questing/etc.” Are you sensing my frustration yet. I’m a pretty patient person with her and normally I let this stuff slide for quite awhile with these kinds of excuses. Then immediately after dinner and putting my son to bed, she gets on the computer and just starts playing again. So far in this day she’s gotten up, got my son up and sat down at the computer, fed him and done whatever else was essential, and played Wow til I got home or just before I got home. Normally when I get home now I don’t even get her calling “Hi babe” from the office, I just hear more clicking and then she’ll get off about ten minutes later. Then about midnight EVERY night I walk into the office and put my hand on her shoulder. At the very least a response you might hope for from anyone else is “What’s up?” “Yeah?” but nothing from her. I stood there for five full minutes and no response. I went to get a drink of water and came back in the room and tried the same thing. Nothing. The next day I out of the blue asked her about how long it had been since she’s given our son a bath and while I was expecting two days, maybe three, she ponders for a moment and comes out with ABOUT TWO WEEKS. Now I am genuinely frightened for my son. When I asked her why she just kinda laughed and shrugged saying she’s been too busy.
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Everyone wants to complain about world of warcraft. From what I see, its mostly women. Let me show you something that is an ACTUAL scientific fact… unlike the jabber and accusations that are being thrown out that have no scientific proof whatsoever.
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just be careful what you wish for. your world of warcraft playing boyfriend could be the next brain surgeon.
i ve been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year 8 months
we met in school. He quit school after 6 months, he discovered wow in december 2006.
He wasn t addicted at first and a friend of mine bought me the game and i even liked it for 2 weeks than i didn t have time to play it as i was in my last year of school and had exams so i just gave my account to his younger brother. Anywayz the whole group started playing to a point when i used to go over for weekends and i would hang around alone and crying in the guest room will my boyfriend would be with the boys playing wow. We ve had fights about it and he stopped but started waking up while i was sleeping to go play. At some point i broke up cause of this and other reasons too.
We got back together he says he would change and he did yeah our relationship improved a lot.
I graduated last year and decided to take a year off so im working at my dad’s, he is still home playing wow. Im moving to UK in august for uni and he s supposed to go with me and get a job ( duno what job a high school drop out can get but we ll see) i told him he won t b playing wow and he doesn’t like it but is willing to do it. Right now though we re in a fight because a few times i ve tried meeting him during the week after work when i actually had time and energy to drive til his house n he ditched me telling me he got raids we got into a fight. I ve got some exams the 16 and 20 th of march and im really stressed out so i kinda tend to over react so i told him it s better not to meet up until i finish exams. I just txted him telling him that he can play as much as he wants these 2 weeks but if we have one more fight cause of wow after that im braking up, and bye bye summer plans and us moving together. He knows me well and knows im not joking so i ll see what will happen. He hasn’t answered the text and i don’t expect him to.
I ve spent almost every night crying in bed and feeling so lonely i pitty every other girl that feels like this. He ll get some kinda pay back next year ( im not the kind but i make exceptions :) ) if we re still together.
good luck girls!
I'm off to study
my ex bf forever played wow and i got fed up with it.. i got so annoyed i gave it a try myself to see what the fuss was about.. i then turned to an addict myself and the tides soon changed.. i got to the point where i was better at it than him.. he got annoyed and asked for my time/devotion and my excuse was NO im playing wow you never gave me hugs/kisses when i wanted them so why should i give in to you.. (i know not the right sort of attitude) i was playing 14 ours a day using his internet! and yea as u can guess i got cheated on and eventually dumped..
i thought shit was it the game? he said apparently not, but i swore from then on i wouldnt put a stupid game before someone i care about and ive been with my bf a year and half now and i still play wow :) i just play moderatly i play when he’s at work or at college in the evenings and i dont play on sundays (our day) and we do activities together which i put 1st too ^^
it is a very addictive game, but dont blame the game, blame the person playing it… i made my own mind up to play moderatly if they cant do it for you too then walk away from them… or talk to them saying if things dont change then im going and if he/she dnt change then it’s their fault and they will either realise it or just keep playing!...
or just do what i did start playing yourself and see what the fuss is about… lol
Five months ago I met my GF (thanks wow) who was just one day away from kicking out her bf of 4.5 years because she was sick of no sex,ever and having to stare at the back of his head. She met me and was totally fed up so she made him move out the very next day,she paid the bills btw.He arranged his “few” hours per week job around wow if he even worked at all.No affection,no love,no sex or going on a date or vacation,nothing ever. For a 27 year old man to have Totally NO interest in sex or spending time with his beautiful GF was difficult for me to comprehend.At least I helped her to escape his fantasy drug-like addiction and appreciate and love her 24/7.He claims he quit wow but his brother and friends are addicts,he gave my gf a wow calendar for x-mas(big spender) and says he only plays D&D now and thats different etc. Denial?? I sympathize with anyone having a loved one addicted to this “game” which affects the pleasure centers of the brain as if an illicit drug…. wow is fantasy land gaming heroin. Adults beware and anyone under 18 should not use this “game”. Let your peeps laugh when you try to warn them,this is very real and needs to be studied.I never even heard of wow before this and I see very clearly it is very dangerous to many.
World of Warcraft nearly destroyed my relationship with my boyfriend. I was hanging on by a thread up until recently and snapped…once he saw that I was willing to end the relationship just like he was willing to replace me with a video game, he snapped out of his year and a half WoW coma and deleted the game from the computer completely.
I feel a little silly when I try to explain to others how much this game can hurt an intimate relationship…but it’s true. Not only have I personally experienced it, but I’ve read articles online and even heard my boyfriend talk about some of his “online friends” who’s relationships, even marriages, had crumbled to pieces because of the game. The game becomes reality for some of these people, my boyfriend scheduled work around his game play, which means that he hardly ever worked at all. I felt neglected for most of that year and half, some times I didn’t even feel like I had a boyfriend. The worst part is that he always had some excuse for why it was okay that he was spending time on his game rather than with me. I’m really glad that he came to his senses…
Some times I think about starting an Anti-WoW Coalition website, to have a place for people like me and others who have been through this before or are dealing with it currently. It may even help the people who take the game too seriously realize what they’re doing and how it’s affecting the people they care about. Anybody down?
It’s pretty sad that this game has caused the ending of numerous relationships. However, both my boyfriend and myself play world of warcraft. It’s up to you to manage how much you play. No game is worth losing a relationship over. Unless you’re freaking Death and Taxes (sorry to say, but have ridiculous standards and raiding schedule, imo. get over it if you’re offended. they’re good and all but just too extreme.) you’re probably not attending raids 6 nights out of 7 days in the week. If it’s getting in the way or putting your relationship in jeopardy, you should really rethink your priorities. A game shouldn’t be at the top of that list.
maybe i’m just awesome but i really don’t mind the game(now). of course at one point it was a total pain in the ass to my relationship but then i got over, i think it’s better than a strip club or a bar. in face i let my boyfriend download this life-sucker on my computer and he’ll come over and play at my house and i’ll watch tv and we can still talk and kiss and have fun. we all have our little pleasures in life so enjoy yours and let them enjoy theirs.
Try having a long distance relationship and your b/f living 500 miles away and doing nothing but playing WoW. I used to play it occasionally, but then it got old for me. I have been dating him for a year and its driving me crazy because I don’t get to talk to him during the day and at night, every night, he is playing WoW. I seriously hate this game. seriously.
I like WoW – alot. After my boyfriend had been playing a while I got into it as well and eventually stopped all together because it pulled me in to the point where I would come home from work and play till I had to sleep. Wake up – repeat. My boyfriend has played for about a year before it went into over drive and became all he ever did. Regardless of my presence or his son’s in the room – regardless of sex or friends or anything else. We broke up ultimately because of the addiction he does not think he has. It’s not WoW’s fault, ladies. It’s him. He is a loser if he’d rather play than have sex with you; leave him and don’t look back.
