How I did it:
First of all, a little background info...
I started working at a coffee shop last July. I got to know one of the guys there pretty well. I was fighting with my fiance at the time, and things were getting bad. This boy either liked to straight mess with people or he had white knight syndrome, because he began texting me and telling me I could do better. Even after he quit working at the shop with me we kept in touch and things kept getting more out of hand. What started out as friends went horribly wrong and ended up almost costing me my relationship.
I made a list of his pro's and con's. It sounds so basic and stupid but this helped me out because I'm very visual. I thought about how much this boy hurt my feelings, my relationship. I thought about what kind of person I had become since I began interacting with him, and how being hung up on him took me away from my loved ones, because they could see what he was doing and were becoming angry with me for being so naive. I had to force myself to stop putting him on a pedestal and look at him as an average human being, with no power over me.
When I did this, I saw him for what he was: a manipulative, messed up, little boy. The appeal was gone and the next time I saw him, I didn't feel angry or sad. It was like I'd never spoken to him in my life. Read how I did it… 21 months ago