learn to have fun

I am 18, and I have never had fun. I look at all the other kids on campus and even my boyfriend having so much fun, but I can’t. I am just to uncomfortable around people to have a social life. I bury myself in my school work, and hide behind my success. In fact, the only time I really talk to people is when I am being interviewed. I can’t even stand myself. I don’t know why my boyfriend is even with me. Does anyone have any ideas about how to be normal and maybe get invited to a social event?

I feel your pain. I’m a single mom and my family depends on me financially, but also I volunteer once a month at my daughter’s school, sing on our worship team at church, take a bible study and pull my hair out every night. I’ve been told that I need to have fun but I DON’T KNOW HOW!!!!!

Yep, i can’t believe i am going to say this…i am 20 years old and don’t know how to have fun. All i do is study or work ..or both. Today i hit myself and realized how awful i am today. I have achieved things but it seems i am not having fun nor enjoying life. I think the best thing i can do is start drinking….even though i am not fond of it that much. AHHHHHHH people…help…any suggestions????

I have added this as number one on my list as although I do remember fun, feeling light, carefree I do not actually invest time or energy into putting this into my life. I am not working at the moment and its killing me!!!! Really hard for me to admit that learning to have fun is a much bigger goal than working to distract myself from life and all its unpredictability, which flipped over seems to me to be the same feeling as fun – you cant control fun, make it happen, plan it! It seems to come about when I let go of control in some way, let myself off the hook and the more I practise the more new ideas for pleasurable, exciting and motivating activities come to mind…..I hope that by learning to have more fun, I might just earn a living while doing it and feel alive rather than working all the time and having some sense that fun (life) comes later! Wish me luck!!!!

right now I don’t, money time, location..Middle of no where oklahoma. So maybe my goal should be to move….

getting better at this! Last night was a blast, i haven’t laughed so hard in a long time! let’s keep it up!