be less controlling

My hubby says that I often seem controlling and I hate it.

I have been told that I am controlling numerous times so I think this is a goal I need to work on.

I’ve only realized this recently. I’m a very controlling person, especially to those whom I am closest to. I tend to feel threatened and paranoid whenever I see my friend hanging out with this particular person. While I’ve talked to her about it, I know that it’s something we dismiss and something that she feels isn’t really that serious (or maybe she does, I don’t know). It’s because I feel threatened that I might lose her to this person but I realize that my attitude might make me lose our friendship entirely. This is why I want to change my attitude, especially since we’re about to go our separate ways.

i like things my way… haha

its not to a point where its rediculous or anything….but there is a part of me that is a control freak. whatev. i give up

i dont know if this is possible for me.

Go with the flow & be free.

Don’t resist things for the sake of resisting.

Let go and watch that big black cloud drift away.

Life is much more enjoyable when you allow yourself to really live in it!

this just wont happen….i hate to think that im just naturally a control freak…but i cant help it. im much more happywhen things are my way….such a bad trait.

i dont think im going to be able to reach this goal. Its like i dont want to be less controlling, i just know it would be better for the people around me.

I too was brought up by a controlling, perfectionist who criticized constantly and lucky me, I inherited all those same traits. It has ruined each relationship I have had although I still believe it all happened for a reason. My fear is if I don’t change this I will never be happy. Have any of you read any books worth looking into?

and i really need to stop. I have seen a controlling side of me lately that i didnt really realize i had and it scares me. IM scared he will get fat, so i control what he eats, and tell him to work out sometimes. I make him get up early cause it annoys me when he gets up late, even though he gets up after my 1 1/2 hrs of getting ready. I make him throw away every singe piece of garbage he sets on the table…even though i KNOW i leave gun wrappers around all the time. I want him to be this perfect man, even though im not the perfect woman. He is a great amazing caring guy and i shouldnt need him to be anything more….and just let him be who he is. He says he likes it when im motivating, but there is a differance between motivating and controlling….and i see that now.