if you want to be stronger, more even-tempered, balanced, and optimistic over the long run, try depending on only yourself. how did i do it? by moving alone to a new city. it was incredibly hard at times, and i’m back to my hometown, where i have a whole web of people to take care of me. i know now that i don’t ‘need’ them in any financial or emotional capacity, but it’s still nice not to be an island anymore. the risk of losing those you depend on is worth the reward of the illusion that you’re not completely alone. other people give your life context and meaning, and there will be plenty of time to be independent when you’re dead. 5 years ago
i always depend on people for everything which is a super bad habbit i really need to work on it 6 years ago
I’m just trying to make a list of things I depend on people for. I mean… What do I try and get from people… What do I need from them?
And I honestly can’t think of anything. Love? No. I kinda draw on my own ‘love’ to push myself forward, still do, but I don’t depend on others to give it.
Food? Yeah, sometimes, but it’s more like a equal relationship. I get food from them and when I have food I give it.
So I don’t really know. I guess that means I’ve pretty much always had this goal down…. I just never stopped to think about this stuff before.
Of course, sometimes you have to depend on other people. But where the real danger lies is trusting yourself enough to let other people depend on you… So perhaps, I should have thought and had taken that goal on? I digress, I’m done with this goal and I’m proud that it was this easy.
A lot of things don’t come that easily.
~Lainko. 7 years ago
I think I’m doing pretty swell with this. The past two days, when I’ve wanted to get home/out to town I’ve walked and I pretty much have my own money so it’s cool.
Not as independent as I’d like but getting tharrr. 7 years ago