it might have been a little juvenile the way I handled it… but it was kinda fun.
She was going out with friends, and asked me if I was alright with it. I was (but I knew the longer we talked about it, the more likely I was to find some emotional well inside me overflow), and decided I needed to get out of the house, too. She asked where I was going, I said “I dunno, I was thinking about buying a puppy.” she was silent… really silent.
Now, here is the deal, we’ve been trying to watch the money even more than usual, so the timing for large purchases is not now. still, there are things I’ve wanted for a while, that seriously occupy my thoughts.
anyway, she exclaimed that we didn’t need one… I did the whiny back and forth, and then said, well, I need to find some friends, so I was going to go get one (meaning the puppy).
I knew I wasn’t actually going to make a fast decision last night, but I was wanting to make it a real thing for discussion. I know she’s nervous about the responsibility, and either of us having time for it, about the cost… But, later after she came home (we are talking 6 hours later), and we were getting ready to sleep, she said (paraphrase) “maybe we can see about you having a puppy”
All I wanted was for her to be open to the idea. I know it’s a major decision. I’m approaching it like a tattoo. This is like deciding to have children. I don’t want to adopt a puppy, just to give her away in a year or two. I wanna be in this for the long haul.
So, I will do all the research, I will visit the pound, I will make a careful decision… and now I’m not in a rush. when the right dog comes along I’ve gotten the “pre-approval”. That feels good. 3 years ago