socialize more

Many friends of mine have moved away and so I need to branch out and build up a larger social network

So I’ve been out of college for about a year now. I was very social in college. Around Spring of my junior year, I began my first real relationship (I know, late bloomer). While I wouldn’t trade my time with her for anything, once things ended, I realized I had alienated myself from most of my close friends. Luckily my friends are great and since I’ve become single I have mended most, if not all, of the friendships that I let slip during my 18 month relationship. However, I’m in a new city now, and with the exception of a few people I have meant through work and some club functions I am involved in, I am struggling to find an adult way to meet new people.

My goal is to come up with ways to get out and meet more people my age that share my values.

it didnt go as i planned this week. it was too late to get the tickets for america’s got talents but i did go to the mall with my best friend. then i realized i had so much hw. i just did hw and nothing else. i couldnt invite my other friends :( maybe next weekend ill invite my friend to a movie if i have time.

tomorrow is my bday and i invited 5 friends so im gon socialize tmrw!!! yay!! i thought of goin to america’s got talents with a couple of friends this wk but i need to find tickets..also since this wk is a spring break, i will socialize with a couple of friends since i have more tyme on my hands…i have one friend who i planned to hang with this week yay! lol im not so much a hermit this week lol

i am a member of a social club and went wine tasting today. i don’t know if any of them will be friend but i will try to go more often and see what happens. all in all it was a good day.

i just realized that i dont socialize so much. i used to hangout with my best friend but i feel like she disregarded me as yesterday’s newspaper. i used to hang with her everywhere and everything. my mom wouldnt let me hang out with anyone unless im with my best friend who is my “protective sister or bodyguard”..from now on, i promise to incorporate ppl into my life, not only her friends but friends i make. i make friends easy but i dont hang out with them. and if we intend to hangout, we always say we will hang but we never do…:(...plus bc my mother is away from home, i have all duties on me like clean house, cook for my father and study…but i should sign up for sumtin and make friends like that

well, i went out on the weekend on a whim. i THINK i had a good time… i danced a lot, and that of course was awesome. i love dancing so much – it makes me feel like a freaking superstar. i should just go out so i can do that – the rest will come more easily! now with my new work schedule, i totally can, too… hmmm.

the rest of the weekend was a bit of a bust though. it doesn’t help that hubby-person went out and partied every single night. grrrr.

this week i have three big social things:
1) friend A is coming over for movies and dicussions on friday afternoon. this is a reschedule, so i must NOT cancel.
2) i am djaying on saturday night with my buddy – lots of people, and it’s the first time my bud has done this. it’s sort of a gift from me to him, and i am pretty excited to see how it all goes! good friend stuff.
3) to overcome some grudge-y feelings i’ve been holding against friend J lately, i’ve invited her and her hubby/kid over for dinner next monday. it’ll be a bit tight because of work etc, but worth it. i just hope that they do actually come! it would be a good way to secretly mend fences that have been a bit wind-blown lately.

things that are still bothering me, socially:
- i want to do stuff with my hubby-person
- i need to reconnect with the kidz downstairs, stat
- i need to hang with my hubby-person’s best bud, stat

le sigh. stressing!

I get invited to events fairly often. Usually it’s small things like movie nights or jam sessions. Half the time I make up some lame excuse so I don’t have to go, and end up sitting at home playing crappy computer games.

The reason for this is that I’m somewhat awkward around my old friends. In 9th grade I used to be somewhat quiet and weird, and now in 12th grade I’m much more comfortable around people but my old friends from 9th grade may think it’s strange that I suddenly start socializing with them a lot more.

Therefore, when I hook up with my 9th grade friends (which is a lot of the time), I take on my 9th grade character, staying quiet and putting in the occasional odd remark.

How to reach this goal? Well, first of all I plan to attend every social event I get invited to, unless there’s a REAL reason why I can’t come (and not some lame excuse I made up). Secondly, I plan to talk a lot more in social situations, and try to keep conversations going when someone’s chatting with me. I consider myself fairly intelligent, but sometimes my awkwardness overcomes my ability to hold a meaningful conversation.

Hopefully this will become a lot easier when I’m off to college and meeting new people. It will be tough to make a good first impression, but from there on it should be smooth sailing.

EDIT: Was invited to stay at a friend’s house and watch a movie, but told him I had to go home and made up some lame excuse. Silly me.

I have to force myself to put myself out there.

I was good about it most of the time in Japan but haven’t been on it since I’ve been back in the states.

Got invited to karaoke again on wednesday, i should go…

I was never a really shy guy, but I always wondered what others are really talking about the whole night. well, I´ve been out at the weekends EVERY weekend for the last 5 months and what can I say: they talk about nothing and everything. just sheer smalltalk. and once you realize that you probably never gonna see each other again it really is fun.

a must !! talk, have fun, enjoy yourself and the company of your friends. it makes your life that much better