learn to be alone

42 days of isolation in the desert would be an ultimate step of this goal to achieve, but “cabin fever” syndrome is one of the dangered possibilities. I have learned how to be alone without being lonely most of the time, but that has also taught me the value of “company”. You learn to appreciate people more when they aren’t around enough to irritate you…lol.

Okay I guess I can take this one down now.

Learn to be alone? I don’t know that I’ve really learned to be alone; how do you do that anyway? I would say that I’ve learned that I am alone. I still need to be a much much stronger person because I’m still awful at being alone. Somewhere in the back of my head I’m always wishing I had someone to go home to. I would’t say I’m officialy damaged (maybe just because I’m not ready to admit that yet) but I am slightly damaged now. I lost part of my mind and my smile on my way to achieving this goal. Geez what a crappy goal. Still, here I am, alone but alive. yay.

i’m 17, he’s 18, and we’ve been together for far too long.

we leave to go to university in a week. although we’re both going to the same university, i know that learning to be different people is an important step that i’ve yet to take.

the question i hope i can find the answer to is: how can i seperate myself from him, when he’s the only thing i’ve ever known?

i know i have to do it. but i need help.

It’s kind of hard to say but I think I’m doing this. Probably not in a healthy way but is learning to be alone really a healthy goal? Learning to be self sufficient is one thing, not looking for approval because you are a self sufficient adult is one thing but learning to be alone is something else. For me and my goal it’s a combo of being alone and being lonely and that is probably not a healthy goal, learning to be lonely, maybe coping with loneliness is another way to say it.

At any rate, I think I am doing this. It’s been difficult and I think it’s making me crazy; really, I think I’m losing my mind but at the same time I’ve been forced to be with me and deal with me until I can either put my foot forward again or look at door number two. I haven’t called any of my friends. On the flip side of that nor have I heard from any of them (one of them actually told me one time that their distance was a reaction to my distance. Does that make any kind of sense??) and on the flip side of that it’s better that I’m not around them right now anyway because I’m not much fun. I need to sort my life out again. Right now I would be one of the downer people that people would probably say to let go from your life anyway.

So before I wander to far from what I’m supposed to be writing about, I think I’m learning to be alone. It’s not fun and I feel like everyone else is moving forward and I’m standing still but I’ve still put both feet on the floor every moring and got my ass to work. Being alone sucks but I guess it can be done.

I hopped on here hopeless after annoying the hell out of a friend of the opposite sex on the phone…ALL DAY!

I had not heard from him since Noon, he didnt answer the phone or texts, and even though I knew in my sane mind he was likely sleeping, I went into full blown panic.

Most the time I dont even know why. I need this instant gratification ..mainly from men.

AND ALWAYS when Im alone.

I finally got him on the phone once Id pissed him off enuf, only to hear him yell, I JUST WANT TO SLEEP!!!

Its Christmas Day, my husband and I are separated, he came to get our daughter. I am home in an empty house..alone.

I have no clue how to be alone. I got engaged when I was 19 years old …I lived on my own when that failed, and when I couldnt afford that any longer lived with family or the next love interest.

I want to enjoy my time alone, take advantage of my free moments without my daughter..clean my house, take up a hobby..and not lay in my bed avoiding life.

work in progress … difficult but very worth it!

I wish I was better at being alone. I wish a was a stronger person. Apparently some people like being single and by themselves and prefer it that way. Not me, I wish I had someone special in my life. My life seems so crippled without someone to share it with. I know this sounds real needy but it’s been a few years now and I guess the depressing part about it is that I don’t see it ever changing so, I need to learn how to be alone. Just how to do this I have no idea. I try things I guess but I always end up curled up in bed with tears on my pillow. I wouldn’t wish this loneliness on anyone. It’s my price I guess, my hell.

I’m 27 years old and over the course of the entire second half of my life I probably haven’t been alone for more than a year in total! How crazy is that

I just finally ended a relationship that was super bad for me. And, again-went running to another guy for a fwb set-up. Well, that didn’t work out and I felt totally wrecked. I finally figured out why-because I don’t know how to be single!!!

I like the line from Fergie’s “Clumsy” “I’m the kinda girl who don’t stay single for long.”-it has always been very true for me. But the reality is that that has led me into some relationships with guys who just weren’t good to me and/or for me.

I don’t know how to do this yet. But hopefully that will change. This weekend seems to be my bumming out weekend. Which is okay. I need that once in a while and the last two weekends have been pretty active.

All my life I have been with someone. I always left a relationship by starting another one. I’m totally scare to be alone but for the first time I don’t want any interference in my life. So, I just have to find the best way to be in a relationship with myself.

Learning to be alone is a great way into self-exploration. You examine your own thoughts with less of the interference of people you would be around who shape and mold your self-image with their presence. I am happy to have “found myself” through it. The only drawback is you loose out practicing “relationships” with others and become a “social leper” so to speak. So there has to be a balance at some point in your life you must get out there and interact.

42moretogo