get my wife back

My wife left me and our kids for a 20 year old who still lives with his parents. I am 41 and my wife is 27 we have had our problems in our marriage like me taking my job out on her and her never speaking up for herself. She finally spoke up in January and told me that she couldn’t handle the way I treated her anymore. I said that I would change and we when into counciling together. She moved out and went to her mothers on May 3rd. We have continued to sleep together and spend time together. The last time we had sex was 6/9/09 the day before she was to go on vacation with her friend kim. Well on Friday me and the kids were going out to dinner and saw my wife and her new boyfriend at a local resturant. I went and satdown next to them and ask the question. Are you two sleeping together they both said no, but did say that they liked each other and would be together when my wife divorces me. I have thought for a while that something was going on with these two and friday proved it. The funny thing is that when I let him know that I was still sleeping with her she lied and said we hadn’t been sleeping together. So she is lying to both of us. It may sound stupind but I love her and want to keep my family together so I am willing to forgive this but I don’t know how to get her back. I would love any help that someone could give me.

My wife left me 2.5 years ago, while I realize we had our issues I didn’t think it was necessary to depart. I was hurt, bitter & refused to communicate. I realize that if I would have communicated with her there was a chance of us getting back together. I just recently reached out to her asking to meet and talk to possibly reconnect. At first she wanted nothing to do with this idea, but after talking for hours I convinced her to at least think about it. After talking for a while, the conversation went much smoother, laughing & joking. I will do anything to get my wife back, any help or suggestions would be appreciated.

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I want my wife back
I have been with her for almost 10 years and it seems that was more than enough for her. She left me about 4 months ago and Ive dated but id much rather be with her. She is the light of my world. I’m improving my weaknesses in order to be a better person for self and in hopes that she’ll come back but mainly for self. Although i cannot lie the prospect of having her back is a major motivating force. some days i can live without her presence, but today is one of those days where i can do nothing but think of all the wonderful things she used to do for me and all the good times we had.

my wife recently left me and it was expected i was very mean and verbally abusive to her. I did not actually think that she would leave but she did whcih is what trips me out so bad. All i wanted to do was run all over her and never listen i was to occupied with my own life to care about hers. now that she is gone i keep wishing and thinking why i did not do that or this. I reall miss her and hope that she comes home soon she has told people that she wants to work this out, but she wont tell me that. I am scared and lonely and i have no friends because i am such a jerk to everyone but at the same time i think thats its good because now i am on a journey to get to know my self and then i am going to try and win her back. I have nothing going for me what so ever at all. I miss her and wish she would come home

My wife and I have been married for 12 years with 3 wonderful kids. We had a catastrophic event happen to the family recently, which my wife feels had me choose between her and my parents. This went on for 3 months and one of her internet pals from high school was “there” for her when I wasn’t. She is now telling me that we can’t be married due to what has happened and she doesn’t see out lives ever being the same. She tells me that if we could have our old life back she would do it in a second and that she thinks if we try to work it out I would hurt her again like so many times before. I have seen now that she is the most important thing to me and I think it’s just to late. I really do believe this other guy was a shoulder for her to cry on and now she thinks she has deep feelings for him. She is telling me that her heart is telling her we need to work through this, but her mind is telling her no.

i too am trying hard to win my wife back. we have been together married for 16 years. ours have been a passionate marriage, sometimes too heated with arguments. i was a long time alcohol abuser, which culminated in a serious health issue for me in january. she sat by my side through a 7 day coma and i came through okay. then in may i drank a beer, sending her into a rage. she threw her wedding ring at me and cried “how could you do that to me! after i worked so hard at keeping you alive!” (and she really did.)

i have been sober since may 19th and have been spending lots of time with her. i think i’m earning a place back in her heart. i am trying.

i have been sitting at home taking care of the kids and the house, but every time i ever say anything or get upset over anything its like im the one that is doing nothing with there life…well let me tell you guys out there that being a mister mom dosent compare to anything and you dont get paid.. ive never cheated on my wife even though she has but we just got into a fight because my oldest son got up out of bed and came dowmstairs to tell his mom he loves her but he always does this so he can get up and run around so i yelled at him and he went back upstairs and thats how the whole fight started and now she barely talks to me and wont even say she loves me n im worried after we talk like she wants to do that ill b gone….i dont know what to do and i need help if anyone has ever been her or close please cause i need her in my life and i cant lose her again…so please help me…............

I have been married for almost 2yrs and I am in the military. My wife and I got married 2 months before I deployed and then we lived together for 7 months and I got deployed again. I was pretty stressed out over my last deployment and we had alot of arguments and I yelled at her. I never called her any bad names or nothing like that. Now that I’m currently overseas she telling me at first that we aruge so much that she needed space. Well everything was going good until she told me she dont think she loves me anymore and she dont think she can forget about what ive done to her. She said she doesnt know if she can be with me or not because of it. I know that i messed up and it was just the stress that had me mad all the time. I have been taking stress classes and taking couseling to better myself for me and her. I want to show her that i’m doing better when i get home but she assumes that i wont how do i prove to her that i am and will do better if she gives me a second chance.

she moved to another town, won’t give me her address, won’t tell me where she works, and won’t communicate with me, other than by cell phone (only when she needs something – like money).

My wife left me about 4 weeks ago. She has blocked me from her life in every way possible. I love her more than anyone on this earth and can not imagine my life without her!!! We have been married for about 1.5 years. We have had our fights, but this came out of no where. God has given me strength to do whatever it takes to get her back, but this HURTS SO BAD. I have never felt this pain before. I am trying to email her ‘love emails’ everyday. I have been in counseling and talked to family and friends. I am SO lost. I don’t know what to do next. I have a feeling that as everyday goes by it will be that much harder to reconcile when she finally talks to me. Please give me all of your advice and encouragement!!! She has told me that divorce is not an option and has not mentioned it….but I don’t know what to think now.