Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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pgumley 12 months ago


addisduThe future

The future is…well, completely uncertain. There are two ways we can go, divorce or to reconcile. I believe both will bring me more pain. I think divorce will bring me greater pain initally, and will get better after a few years post divorce. Reconciliation (which is what I want), although less painful, will be painful over a longer period of time. The winning back of trust, issues with intimacy, sex, etc. I’ll be paranoid and worried. I’ll be always be wondering if it will happen again. I feel like if we really worked at it, we might be reasonably happy after 6-8 years.

Worrying about the future is pointless. I feel like I need to mentally prepare for each option, but I don’t think there is any real way to. I must focus on the present, the now, today. That’s all I can control…what makes me happy today. 22 months ago


addisduCurrent situation

My wife cheated on me with several men for the last year and a half. We separated, and now she is living in an apartment with her latest affairee. All of the men were a different race than her and I. She says she loves me but she’s not attracted to me anymore. She also said that I did nothing wrong, and that she has all the problems. I see this behavior as a rebellion against her people pleasing nature, her low self esteem, and missed opportunities from us being together for so long. We’ve known each other since high school, we’ve been married for 7 years, and we’ve known each other for 15.

She’s the light of my life, my everything. I love her inside and out. I feel like I could never get over her, and I would love her till the day I died. I miss her so much it hurts.

We’ve been separated for a month and a half. I’m not pursuing her, because I want to give her space to figure out what she wants. I don’t want to beg and plead because that would make me less attractive and weak. “If you love something, set it free; if it comes backs it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.” That’s the way I see it.

Until the day comes where she comes back or wants a divorce, I’m working on me. It’s the only thing I can control, because I can’t control her. I’m going to make me the best me I can be. I’m improving mentally, physically, and spiritually. I’m working to make myself irresistable. I’m going to date and see other women, but she’s the only one I want. 22 months ago


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