get to know my sister better

My sister has asked me to out with her on saturday to see one of her friends in a band! I am very happy, she never asks me anywhere with her friends! This is a big step – alas I have the flu so i am going to do my best to get well enough to go.

We just met a couple of years ago. Neither of us talk to the “father” that made us. He’s in a no way a dad to either of us, and he never has been. I found him my senior year, and found out about her…and then I found her on myspace. We’ve been building our sistership ever since. She lives in Colorado, and she’s almost 19. I live in Texas, and I’m a little over 20. I love her dearly and miss her…I wish we lived closer to each other so we could really be a part of each others’ lives. I want to know everything about her that I feel like I don’t know right now….I want to know her as close to the way other sisters know each other who were raised together. <3

Went on my own and it was nice to spend time just the two of us. She hasn’t been well and I’d just had a tattoo on my foot so we just stayed in and talked and ate pizza and chocolate cake.

There’s quite a big age difference between us, I’m 16 years older than she is so we didn’t grow up together and I moved out of our parents home when she was two. Now that we’re both older I feel that I should make the effort to get closer to her. She lives about 80 miles from me and we both have our own lives and committments so we don’t meet up very regularly. I’m trying to keep in touch more by phone and would like to arrange to go and spend a couple of days with her in the summer. Usually when I visit, my sons and mum come too and it’s difficult to have a chance to really talk to her.

I’m 28, she’s turning 23 later this month.

We are polar opposites. I’ve always been more of a loner, never cared much about fashion and makeup, very academic, love to read, kind of a geek, queer, high-school dropout, liberal, atheist, introverted, non-confrontational, not athletic, chronically single, don’t especially like kids.

My sister has always been a social butterfly, really into name-brand clothing and having her hair and makeup just so, more worldly than book-smart, straight as they get, high-school graduation, mostly conservative, believer, agressive, very athletic, was always in a relationship, has been engaged/living with her fiance for several years, worked in daycare for years and is about to pop out her second kid.

We grew up more or less hating each other. We’d stick up for each other when it was important, but other than that we really didn’t get along. We fought constantly – sometimes physically – and only started getting along better once we both grew up and moved out of the house. She was always mean to me about my weight, my sexual preference, and just about everything else. I’ve known few people who could issue cutting remarks the way my sister could.

When she first started dating her now-fiance, she started to change for the better. Motherhood has furthered that change. She’s a much nicer person now, more generous and less uncaring about people’s feelings. She’s got a good head on her shoulders and has grown into quite the young adult. I’m proud of what she’s turned out to be after such a rough start.

Over the past couple of years our relationship has finally evolved to that stage where we actually call each other sometimes just to talk, and where we can share things. We bond a lot over what an ass our father is (long, complicated story). Sometimes she offers more insight into a problem than I’d expect, and I get to do the same sometimes.

I’d like to expand upon that, maybe start making some time to spend together just the two of us here and there. Take in a movie or something. It might be hard, since she’s got a year-old son and another baby on the way very soon. I’d like to try, though. We missed out on so many years of actually feeling like sisters, and I’d like us to try to make up for some of that lost time.

My sister and I are almost 7 years apart, she being 19, and myself 27. I haven’t lived with her since I left for college, and that was when she was 11 years old.
So, needless to say, I don’t really know who she is, what she’s about, and why we’re so different.
We both love sports, and both of us attended college on athletic scholarships, me basketball, and she softball.
She likes hard rock and 70’s music, myself: country, pop, and rap.
We have a lot of different morals and values too (I won’t bore you with the details)
I have tried to convince her to move to AZ with me, but b/c of her scholarship, she can’t/won’t, even though I think it’s in her best interest to move away from home (Iowa) and get to know me. Maybe I’m being selfish??