when i invite bad thoughts to attack me big or small its like impossible to defeat them.
i dont want this to continue as it will ruin my relationship with my bf (hes such a great guy),my family (parents getting old i should act positive to them), my friends (im sure we dont want a fren whos always being negative..its boring!)
so all the best to me. im fixing this and i tink things are beter =)
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Lucy In The Sky With Diamonds its all about the triads, there is always a beginning, a middle + end
Today Ive been quite negative with myself.
I felt really down and exahusted -especially in the afternoon.
I was considering suicide and I also binge ate in the afternoon.
Its ok, just need to pick up myself up again.
I think I need to introduce regular breaks within my working hours and then I will feel less propelled to be negative and feel more wholesome and caring towards myself.
I also need to accept, thats its ok for things to go wrong and just remember that plpl like Lu and Shibs, managed to get 1st and 2:1s and they are super skinny and doing superwell. So I can do it, i just need to be persistent and not give up.
Need to also watch what I say and think before i say stuff
Lucy In The Sky With Diamonds its all about the triads, there is always a beginning, a middle + end
Today i was quite negative, its terrible, i bitch and the thing is someone around the corner could be listening and news travels fast and then youve got backfire.
i really need to watch myself.
worse thing is i always bitch about plpl i care and then i feel bad.
so,
strategy
only bitch through email/fb.
and need to think a lot more b4 i say
Right,
to quote domesticatedwifey :
“The more you gossip, talk negatively with other people and talk negatively about things, the more negative you become. If you surround yourself with positive people you can really feel better. Though I might be negative about this or that, I don’t feel that I’m negative about everything anymore. You need to only “vent” to the people you know you can trust, usually that’s only 1 person that is not involved in whatever may make you feel negative, I say choose a family member, significant other or friend that you’ve known for years.”
Im going to try this, i bitch about plpl, life and my self at uni. Im going to try and only vent at 1 person -my best friend from school. I think I will do this through facebook. I will also try other plpl -my bro and my mum, although my best friend J is the best really as she’s the most open. I will try and message her whenever I feel completely rockbottom. I guess the samaritans are good too when feeling in state of desperation and absolute negativity. I might also blog some of my thoughts here, as a way of venting
in every negative. No matter what happens to you in life you can learn from it, positive or negative. No two people are the same and we are all diversified. We all have one common goal, to enjoy and live the one life we have been given.
I’m always so negative about everything, but I guess thats what you get in life when people try to mess with your feelings, and constantly taking the piss, thats when you start seeing the bad in people and not the good. I do want to stop being negative but i also don’t think i’m the one to blame. Just a whole load of bad experiences.
I am trying to be better! I don’t know why but I have always been more of the “doom & gloom,” “glass half empty,” pessimistic kinda girl. I am starting to think more on the postive side and I gotta say my Husband has helped alot with keeping my mind in a better place. When your around a positive person I have found it kinda rubs off on you! :)
xHuggles is sitting at home in front o fthe computer again.
Likethe title says ”`it’s not the “negative” nagtive ur thinking about.” I’m always saying negavite things but as jokes. But my friends told be to stop being negative so I guess i shud D:<!
CurlyBird is trying to keep busy...
Perhaps it would be a good start to say, “Start being positive” instead…? ;-)
I have been keeping myself going and feel better than I ever have. The cup is half full now and the world feels easier to grasp in my hand. I feel fantastic.
Ky enjoying the weekend
Ive always seen things in a negative way and most of it is just human nature I just started finding postive things in my life to focus on and it works it makes me be less negative.
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