learn to trust again

After finding out the last 20 years of my life have been a lie, how do i move forward and learn to trust people again.

My boyfriend was asked to move in with this girl he’s been friends with for years. When he told me, I was like great! When are you doing this? Did I think about how he would be living with a girl? Nope. If that’s not trust, I don’t know what is.
Still, I wouldn’t care. Only for two reasons: one, I trust him and two, I’d be in there within a week or so anyway.

I want to trust. I don’t feel that it is all my fault though. I don’t know if I could ever really trust him though. But I wish I could more than anything. I love him.

Me and my boyfriend are doing much, much better. I’m not suspicious of him at all.
And with my friends, it’s been easier to feel relaxed and I’m happier because I’m talking with people I like and actually get along with.
It wasn’t as big of deal as I thought. =]

After having been in a very bad marriage for a long time, I have developed the horrible ability to not trust. I have a hard time trusting my new husband, trusting that he is true to me and not lying to me. I also want to trust others and not feel that they are only pretending to like me to get “inside” to someone else (like my husband)

Being picked on and hated until the tenth grade did not help my trust issues. I’ve always had a distance from everyone. I don’t need a strong emotinal connection to anyone, it’s never worked out because that person always ends up pissing me off. Don’t get me wrong, I have people in my life that I can talk to if a problem comes up and I know they won’t tell anyone. Those kinds of people I’ll be friends with for a few months and then get rid of them. It’s my messed up way of trusting.
It’s so werid having a boyfriend now. I told him a few secrets nobody else knows and now we share a lot of personal things. It’s just uncomfortable sharing anything with anyone. I guess I’ve always been emotionly independant or whatever you want to call it (loner).
It’s uncomfortable being so trusting and dependant.So, emotionally, its always been me. Not me and a certain guy I have no reason not to trust and who loves me to the point of it…hurting? (weirdo)
Who knew it would be hard to trust God. I’m stubbon to change, even though its what I want more than anything else.
It’s kind of like having a Great wall of china around my mind. or heart. or whatever.
It really scares me how I’m starting to use people. It’s like over the years, I’ve become so bitter towards people and their shortcomings. So my ‘best friend’ is someone I can have fun with and joke around with. We’ve known each other five years and have been good friends for the whole time. If she never talked to me again I wouldn’t be too sad. I can’t trust her with anything.

i know,easier said than done but….we were both in an impossible situation and if i am honest i think we wore each other out,for her difficulties i was kind of the plaster cast and her new guy is physiotherapy so we have done our own jobs in getting her better.
i was really cut up about how it ended until i realised it wasn’t about me and we’d never have got where we are together,could have ended better but you can’t carry the load forever,hope she got what she wanted and is ok

We have been datinf for almost two years. Before i met him i had just come out of a relationship that didn’t end well at all. I was sexually assualted by my ex-boyfriends father!!! That was something that completely crushed my chances at ever trusting anyone again. Then i met my new guy…. WOW he was so supportive in what i was going through and i will never forget how he made me feel sexy and appreciative… With my last relationship i was repeadatly cheated on and stupid me i stuck around.. With my new guy we just broke up and he told me that he felt nothing more than a friendship for me. When days before we had, had the best relationship anyone would want. I just don’t understand what happened and why he said that to me. Then he started to lie about myspace and where he was and what he was doing or completly avoiding me when i would call him. PLease someone tell me am i wrong for not trusting my new guy? My understanding is you be honest with a mate if your not honest with yourself right?

We’ve been together over a year and a half now and while I try so hard I keep slipping backwards toward not trusting him. He’s never done anything wrong in our relationship but I’m so attached to him that I’m afraid I’m going to get hurt again. But by not trusting him, I’m letting everyone who’s hurt me in the past win. And he’s told me this before. If I don’t change soon, and finally win, I’m going to lose him. It’s not fair to him especially when I know where to start, I just need to get over my abuse as a child and get on with life.

now i m again with faith in myself…
just shaking a bit… get upset many times… but not blaming to myself… thats good improvement…

i know now i will back on my true self soon…
with all faith that everything happens for good reason…