stop worrying about what other people think of me

I like to tell myself that I don’t care what others think, but deep down I do care. I work very hard to build up a persona that sometimes I feel isn’t totally me. And then if I try to be more “me” it won’t be the persona I’ve built. And people might hold it against me…

i’m not too selfconious, i am a bit though. i do get sick of it though when i hear sombody say my name, when i know they aren’t talking about me, and it still buggs me when they make remarks about me to my face. i want to stop careing.

Whenever I have an idle mind , I start thinking abt myself and all the things i need to improve… plus also if i get a small positive , i go to the top world…. hmm how to deal with this …these turbulent cycles of up and downs….the best way would be to take 10 deep breaths and say to your self …u r the same person , the same person before the event happened and you could choose how the event affects you with your attitude …the best way in line with what you want to become is humility, modesty…u r good but others are good tooo so there is something to learn from everyone ….just keep telling u r self this - and always always always dont forget to be humble , remember thre are people in this world who are not as lucky as you ,who are struggling in thier lives and the least u can do is NOT be boastful and proud of u r self ….cause u know u havent done anything even close to surviving in the conditions that so many people live in this world…. u need food, sleep etc and u cant stay without them…u r completely spoilt when seen from thier eyes…so remember that … and bring your self to the ground ,, just stay connected to the earth – i.e when u r fearful and want to drown ur self under the ground – - pull u r self above( say positives abt u r self).... when u r floating , cases when u r extremely happy feeling proud of an achievement , come back down and say … u r the same person who needs food water and air to survive…the very same person and nothing great …..so remember just stay connected to the ground!

been feeling too vulnerable to people’s opinions lately and i am guessing this is because i have opened my self too much…from being the arrogant , stuck up that people had imagined me to be , i have gone to the other extreme…balance is what i find difficult to attain in life…that is something i really want to concentrate on….i am felling vulnerable abt the way i dress, what i wear and what and how i react …becoming more conscious again of everything and i guess the best way to get rid of this would be to focus on the work that needs to be done rather than anything else….guess have to get that back …and need to remember that in life i will always have to do this …focus on the task or in personal life on others rather than myself…cause the moment i start doing that i either get toooo self conscious or toooo arrogant and overconfident….so two things here to remember :

1. focus on the task , assignment etc to be done
2. focus on others while on break or with family

basically avoid focus on self except when analysing myself…:)
just be true to your ideas, secure and be u r self (i know u would say that the party incident was not rite and i was being myself here - so this is a lil tricky i guess, its about being secure and when you have done a mistake, accepting it thinking that everyone has the rite to make a mistake and that time is the best healer…if your conscious is clear thats it…if not ask for forgiveness…and then leave the rest up to the universe to handle…dont worry so much about it that you lose sleep on it)):))) its ok galtiyan hoti hai sabse hoti hai …

I think this is something that everyone has strugled with, but I never realized how many of my life decisions were made to appease someone else. In the end it never really made me happy. It’s crazy to think that I let other people direct my life like that without even realizing just how much control I was relinquishing. I’m done with that. I want to do things that make me happy for once. I want to start making decisions for the right reasons.

i do not know “what to say ?”

...applies to so many aspects of my life. It’s difficult and I don’t think I’ll ever fully accomplish it. But I would at least like to be able to stop spending so much time wondering if people don’t like me…it doesn’t matter!

I see myself getting closer to accomplishing this task every day. I’m not finding myself self concious about what I’m wearing or what my body looks like, actually, i compliment myself more. its not totally easy, im just making the effort to care more about what i think of me than what others might

I think I am an attractive woman but I have struggled with low self esteem most of my life, I have been a people pleaser, an enabler, and a doormat at various points of my life as well. I think this has scarred me into focusing on other’s opinions. Some people can be so mean and they don’t seem to think before they speak. I let other’s opinions take over what i think of myself. In actuality those who have so much negative to say,if you really look at them you’ll find that you can say so many negative things about them too…I take solace in the fact that i could hurt some feelings if i wanted too but I wont stoop to their level…and sometimes nobody is really even thinking about me its just my self conciousness getting to me

I know I should stop worrying about other people think of me but I can’t help it.