...on 43 Things. (Or the ‘net.) I don’t say this lightly. I AM an “old fat guy,” and that causes problems when I meet people face to face. The outside hides that spirit, but on the ‘net the spirit can show (sometimes).
(Of course, on the ‘net all guys are muscular & tan blonde surfer dudes, and all women are buxom beauty queens and razor thin fashion models. But, I digress.)
Thanks, once more, to all of you I trade cheers with each day! 1 month ago
...and I do not know if I will keep it or not. I know that, as people get older, they tend to become more isolated.
This is true for reasons that should be obvious: friends move, friends die, friends marry or divorce, and things just happen. We have attrition in our relationships except for family, and it happens with family if we live long enough. As we age, we tend to not replace friends. Read any good “Lifespan Development” textbook, and you’ll find this phenomenon described in the chapters about the later stages of life. (I recommend Santrock.)
(Life-Span Development, 13th Edition by John W. Santrock (Oct 19, 2010) available from Amazon and various other sources.)
I might add that I have tended to become a bit of the “grumpy old man.” What that really means is that I am becoming increasingly selective regarding who I spend my time with, especially as I recognize that I have less and less of it. In any case, finding kindred spirits seems increasingly difficult.
Still, finding kindred spirits is refreshing, even exhilarating. So, I think I will give this a whirl and see how it goes. 1 month ago
Is just before Yom Kippur.
I have a vision of going, then getting food, then cruising in to YK services. 3 months ago
Not just carrying on, but dancing, even. 7 months ago
Like a lot of people, I felt like I had a tribe in college. Well, last night I went out and watched a friend from that tribe perform at Space, a performance space in Evanston. He was really surprised to see me, and touched that I would “drive all that way” (about 1/2 an hour) to see him. It was nothing really, a tiny bit of effort. We’re going to get the gang back together as soon as we can. Not sure if it will be before or after Nepal. 10 months ago
I LOVE THis goal! I found it by accident while just cruising around on 43T, and I gotta say, this is a huge goal for me! HOpefully, I’ll be able to tick it off in a few months’ time. And then just cultivate those relationships like crazy. 10 months ago
You find yourself at a table talking about things that you know would make most of the people you meet and work with on a regular basis roll their eyes or stare at you blankly. Instead of that reaction, you see the people you are with nodding their heads or laughing along with you. You feel yourself drop the hesitation you normally carry around inside you and express openly what you love about what you are doing, what you are talking about, what you want and the direction you want to go. If you find something like that happening, now that you have just located members of your tribe.
The drums are beating. The clans are gathering. My people are coming to Chicago. WorldCon 2012. 15 months ago