Find my tribe

I have 4 good friends. The others are people that I care for but it’s not tight.

For my birthday – I could invite about 7 people to lunch and they could be considered my tribe. These are people who know me and like me. These are people who I trust and they appear to trust me. I think we are done here! :)

Gotta admit that I feel popular this month!

A lot of attention coming my way from friends – I think this is a by-product of my being more social and open.

There are a lot of people who seem to be part of my tribe atm. Lets see who are long-term members.

Re-connected with some old friends this month!

I reckon that my tribe maybe coming along :)

I just read that the “typical person” has 6 people who can be considered close friends.

Well, I have 3 people that definitely fit into “my tribe” – but I think I need one or two more… A good way to bring everyone together will be to do something together on my birthday… lunch and possibly an outing somewhere… I need a plan.

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I discovered a really good site for meeting people that share my interests called Meetup.com. It’s sort of a repository of special interest groups you can search to see if there is one in your area. I joined five groups: two on learning the Japanese language, another about Japanese Pop Culture, one writing group and one for watching anime. Not everything is perfect fit. One of the Japanese language groups and the J-Pop Culture groups are failing, and the writers group has meet on days I can’t attend so far. But the anime group meets once a month like clockwork, and the other Japanese Language group is very strong, getting together routinely for study sessions and to attend cultural events in our area. I find myself perusing the meetup lists to see if there is any other interest of mine that has a group sharing it. Worth looking into.

My tribe are the people I feel comfortable with day in and day out. They are my friends. We feel a connection. They ‘get’ me and I ‘get’ them. I imagine my tribe to be much like I wish my family was—loving me no matter what, sticking by me, sharing special events, being supportive, caring, etc. Is it too much to ask?

I’ve been searching for my tribe for a while now. Feeling that they must be musicians and possibly metaphysicians, on the same track as me, as we band together to change the world. In this search I felt terribly alone. And then the most wonderous thing happened. A coworker said to me: “You must be the nicest person on earth.” s’what? “You have friends who cook for you (true I have a friend who makes me soups for my lunch, treats, cooks for any party I want to throw), cleans your apartment (true) and throws parties for your friends (true I have a couple of friends who didn’t know my other friends well until my bday party so they threw a party to hang with everyone) – I have never heard of this. You must be the nicest person in the world.”

That’s when I realized, I have my tribe. They may be athiests, pastry chef’s, motivational speakers, theologians, actors, singers, screenwriters, but above all they are amazing friends. They may not be musicians (some of them are metephysicians) but they are my tribe. They are fantastic, trustworthy, joyous, fun, supportive, thoughtful, and open hearted. And they’re mine.

l&l,
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I’ve known many people in my life, but there have been few that I felt truly close to. And there have been few times when I’ve really felt that I was among people who understood and accepted me. I never felt that my family of origin shared my values, and I suppose what I’m looking for is a ‘family of choice’. To have a real sense of community.