I have to let go of something to achieve something bigger than that, even though it is not fear for somebody else I truly like, I will have to choose my family and brighter future.
Let it be my sacrifice for my Great Future. 2 years ago

he was my first love..
my own definition of love is that you can sacrifice everything even your whole life for him or her..and for the experience i had,i still don’t know if it was love that i feel for him when i was just 16..maybe just an infatuation that took almost 1 and a half years..
still i consider him as my first love..whom i didnt know if he really cared for me at all..
just this day,i found out that he was not my frst thought anymore as i wake up..and that was the time i realized..i finally let go of him..
haha..after 2 years of hoping that i could forget him..finally i just did…thanks to myself.. 2 years ago

This is so important. I don’t my ex, but I do truly care about him. I think about him everday. I miss him a lot. I need to let go and move on. 2 years ago

I’ve been ready to let go for a while, but have not been able to do so completely. It is the second screwed up relationship I had a tough time walking away because of how much I loved the person. Love is a strange thing, it’s like a virus and as such, it just has to run its course, you can’t really fight it. Some days are better than others, I can now feel it getting weaker and how I’m beginning to get past it.
Listen to Jem’s ‘You Will Make It’. That song alone might help a lot, guys. 2 years ago

There are a lot of things I need to learn to let go of… 4 years ago

this is the hardest thing in the world for me. How do you decide when enough is enough, and really learn to let things go? I really need some help with it. Do you let things go when it gets to hard, or when it hurts too bad, or when you just don’t want it anymore? How does anyone really know when its the right time? 4 years ago

I have spent the past 9 years “friends” or something with someone who has been friends when its been convenient for him. When he wants to be there he’s a GREAT friend, other times he’s not. He is a wonderful person, just not for me. However, I have held on because I have seen what a great person he can be. Lately I realized that no matter how terrific he is, I need to look out for me. So, it’s officially time to move on. It should have been a long time ago. Unfortunately my feelings were often times stronger than just those of a friend and I couldn’t let go. Now, I care way too much for myself to be just let myself be treated like this from anyone. I won’t do it anymore. So, I told him I couldn’t be friends wih him anymore. I’m sure I will still hear from him, but for me. . . I’m done. I just need to remember I don’t need to respond to him and that I have better people in my life than someone who only wants me in his when no one else is around. 4 years ago

Some times when we hold on to tight we don’t get to see the beauty of it all. 4 years ago

It was so hard…to let him go. but thats what destiny is…doing something that ur not ready for! 4 years ago

“how you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. and so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big gigantic test followed by one big gigantic lesson. in the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. it’s how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, the darkness and the light.” 4 years ago

Never let someone else make you feel bad just because you think you need them. All you need is yourself. Letting go was one of the hardest, and yet the easiest things for me to do. 4 years ago

I just had a new way of thinking about this, maybe it’ll help some of us at least:

Hanging on:

a) You feel bad because you’re getting left behind
b) You’re going nowhere because there is no opportunity to

Letting go:

a) You may feel either equally as bad or worse
b) But you’ve got the oppportunity of going somewhere, even if you aren’t taking it

So it’s really a case of the lesser of two evils, and granted that feeling bad is inevitable, it really comes down to whether you want to have that opportunity open to you, and I would think a chance is better than no chance at all. 4 years ago

it was very hard, when a very good friend of mine and I just….drifted is the word? apart when she started uni (she’s in the year below me). she started having her own life, which was fine, I wouldn’t have expected otherwise, and anyway, I wasn’t ashamed to admit I had done so myself in my first year when she was still stuck in a school she didn’t belong to, as had I.

But when she moved out and didn’t tell me (and I found out from her photos on FB, and don’t deny that FB is useful for anything other than keeping track of your friends…and maybe keeping in touch with them very occasionally) I thought, ok, never mind, maybe she was just too busy. But the second time—I can’t remember what it was, but she didn’t tell me either and it really did it in for me. I just remember her not telling me she moved house because that was the initial and bigger shock of the two.

But I didn’t want to let go, because I thought maybe she was really that busy, and blah blah blah, you know how self deception goes. Plus it would’ve been even more awkward because my mum got her job from this friend’s mum, and is still working there! I already had all the warning signs…she moved house May of her first year, we met in July that year just as a catchup and I could already tell we had drifted so far apart there was nothing in common, and then that second thing and I had that gut feeling all along since she started her first year, which I very wisely and rationally ignored (see the sarcasm here?) When my mum suggested/forced we meet up again after that second incident, I felt really reluctant to, and that’s when I realised.

And it really feels good, to just let go—you know you’re now “free” (more a mental thing I suppose than anything) to go on and do other things, rather than be held back and anchored by something in your past which is in your past for a reason. 4 years ago

i just need to remember that change is alright. good, in fact. it’s growth and progress, and things can and will get better. there will always be rough patches, but it will be worth it. letting go can do some amazing things! 4 years ago

Everyone holds on to something at one point in their life. But there are new and old things that come into your life all the time. Some are good to hold on to and some are not. Only you really know when you are ready to let something go.

I’m holding onto wants. I think I need to let them go and pick up needs. 5 years ago

When I think with my head, I know that he is not the one for me. I need to walk away, not think about him, not wonder what he is doing and when will he contact me next.

But my heart has it’s own agenda. It wants him. And for all the wrong reasons.

Such a battle that goes on between my head and my heart. I wish my head would win that battle more often! I’m working on it! 5 years ago

I was with my husband for 16 years, married for 12 and I cheated on him. A couple of times, not that I’m proud of that. The last time I felt pushed into leaving him by him, and pulled by the man I was cheating with. Things spiraled out of control for following 3 months until I screamed “Stop. I need to pause reality until I can gain control again”. I saw my extranged husband, not sure why, but I just needed to see him. We spoke, he asked questions, I answered with total honesty (another first for me) and I asked if there was a chance…he said he didn’t think so.

Since then I have been to a relationship counselling, I’ve felt depression, suicidal, unloved and so emptry. I’m on anti depressents and I’ve cried more water than our english summer.

My new man, loves me so deeply and wants to marry me, have children with me, and 90% of the time it sounds great. But I can’t help missing my first love, and wanting him back. 2 weeks ago I had an light bulb go on it my head. It was ok to still love him and to still miss him, that shouldn’t stop me moving forward. So I@ve felt good for 2 weeks and then friday just gone, I got sad again. And I’ve felt so wretched in my heart and soul.

I’ve no family to turn to (they all live in Australia) and friends tend to be one sided. The kids almost love my new man more than their own father, and that makes it worse.

I don’t know what to do. It just feels like a bad dream, that I can’t wake up from. Or maybe it’s just ground hog day. 5 years ago

This is my first heart break. It sucks. I feel for all that are in the same boat. it sux sux sux! anyhow… so does holding on. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has told me I have hold onto the idea of my boyfriend of two years for six months since we both went our seperate ways. He wasn’t the best bf towards the end… actually quite a homer simpson but the love, the little stories and times that replay in your mind. Geez its a killer… and those annoeying myspace and facebooks that just publish all their great times, new gals … seriously hand me a bucket cause literally it makes me feel emotionally sick. The anger and resentment that has come from my hurt.. I now realise how unhealthy it is for me to hold on. If you can LET GO. Get them out of your life if you still want them and they don’t want you. It’s not worth your sanity. Your energy or your pain!!! My theory is that if your ready to let go. If you have lost the desire, if your happy with being alone, with moving on, with them moving on.. then its OK to hold on to the good memories but otherwise let go let go let go. Forget and distract. Let of the idea!!! ... but by all means to all those that can relate its bloody not easy ;) Wish you more luck than i’ve had… time heals.. wish i had a time machine. x 5 years ago

There is a big difference between knowing when to let go, and being able to let go of your feelings. I know I should let go in theory, but it’s really hard in practice. Some feelings you just can’t control. But somehow I feel I’ve accomplished this because I’ve given up getting him back for a long time ago, and I never contact him anymore. I’m not even sure if I want him back or have genuine feelings for him. All I know is that whenever I think of him I get sad and full of regret for acting as a fool. And I doubt time will change that, because I’m not a person who can forget people I’ve loved. I can get over them, but never forget them.

But just for sure, I’ll keep this goal _{just a little longer.}5 years ago

I do.5 years ago

I have supressed these feelings for about 5 months now. Now I’ve realised I just have to face them to overcome them. I still have feelings for him. I don’t know why, how it’s even possible considering I didn’t even really knew him. Maybe it’s karma. After all, I cheated on him (which I’m not proud of). Guess I’ll just have to wait this one out… 5 years ago

I have to learn to let go of…

- Him… I think of him almost every day. It’s like I’m re-writing and sugarcoating history. The moment he stopped caring, I started. I guess it’s true that you always want what you can’t have. At least for me.

- My oldest, closest friend. She has become a total destructive person the last years. Though I wish I could help her, I’ve learned there is nothing I could do if I want to stay happy myself. I love her, but she’s eating my energy day by day.

- Other than that I have to let go of all the good times I’ve had, and instead focus on the present. Instead of being sad that it’s over, I should be happy it even happened. 5 years ago

I hate being in a position where I’m hanging on, but I think the idea of letting go is much worst. However I realise its something that I have to do. Its taken a while for me to get over my ex, but I think I’m finally there. 5 years ago

ok let me put it this way ,there is one thing am really proud of myself for and that is being able to get over my ex,i was so into him i thought i will never let go off him for the rest of my life that even scared me a bit.well now i see him around and my heart does not even beat like it used to.his friends never appreciated me even though i really wanted to be part of them but now they see me and they know they have got no chance i am through with that.boy am i glad .But something new is happenning now. 6 years ago

I had to and it was when i recognized the difference between ‘giving up’ and ‘letting go’. 6 years ago

I have serious issues with this. I get so angry about past issues, I also get so sad about other past issues… the past seems to control me and there isnt a day goes by when I dont long for the past in some way. I seriously need to move on and let go, I need to realise that this is okay too. Im happy and thats what counts. I dont care what they think of me anymore so why fuss over it? I am a bigger person for moving on than letting it upset me. YES! I will do this! 6 years ago

I have been hanging on for a while now, however I was talking to my ex today and I realised that its probably time to let go, I’ve been feeling really down most of the day, I just wish that she could see things the way I see them. I know that I have a life to live too though. I just wanted to live that life with her.
I think the next few weeks are going to be really tough, I have a hard time letting people go. I can’t understand how people can just walk away from their friends or relationships without a second thought. I love people, I love being around them and finding out about them. It hurts me so much knowing that I have had feelings for someone but I’m never going to see them again. 6 years ago

This is something I definatly want to acheive, because I find it really hard to let go of people. I get scared when people walk out of my life – even if they’re someone who’s done me no good, even if they’re someone who hurts me more than anyone else ever has, I still beg and plead for them to stay in my life, because my two biggest fears are pain and abandonment, abandonment of course causes emotional pain so to have my two worse fears merge together is horrible to say the least. 6 years ago