stop loving him so much

.. because after seven years, we’re actually together.

One month after I last commented on here, we went on our first date. After all these years, it felt terrifying to be on a real date with him, and we’ve been together ever since, and now we live together. Our lives are completely entwined, and I feel more at home and safe with him than I ever have in my life.

To everyone who has suffered through this over the years – good luck if you really want to stop loving him. And if you don’t, maybe it will all work out one day – when I first created this list, I never thought it could, but against the odds, through his marriage and my relationship, through changing jobs and lots of pain, it finally has. And I’m very very grateful.

I am 25, and I have been with my children father since the age of 16. I guess I gave him too much of me, and he’s hurting me. I am trying hard to move on, but it’s like he got a hold on me. I know it’s mental, because he can’t do anything I don’t allow.

i hv been lovin this man who cannot be named so much for 3 years…he never knew that and he is 16 years older than me nd im only a teenager… i dont know why i love him!! i want to get over him but i cant!! been tryin to tel him but didnt wanna to cos we ll never happen!! wish i could love a different fella instead of him!!

After four years, I know that if this is going to happen, it’s going to happen in its own time. I can’t push it, or force it, or at this point even think about it.

I love him, it’s as simple as that. Hopefully, it’s just for a time… if it’s not, I’ll deal with that as it comes.

worth it.

We’re not speaking anymore – haven’t in awhile. Haven’t since before he moved in with her…

And all those intense fights and the bullshit and the flipping out and the crying on the phone and the wanting to put my fist through a wall…Even though the last six months were insane, the first four years maybe too intense, maybe too much…

He’s still with her, and I still want him back.

I was going to college and I met this guy nammed ^Tommy and I fell for him, when I say fell I mean head over heals really bad I mean he was just mr perfect, mr does no wrong and all that good stuff… I trusted him soo much .. too much even. He said he was working late I believed him. He called me and said he couldn’t make a date that had been planned for 2 weeks cuz work called him in .. I believed him. I got him a 600 dollar radio for Christmas for his truck and a gun cab nit…needless to say he told me he was moving about a week before Christmas .. that absolutely broke my heart well then one of my college buddies saw him out and about with a girl named abby. (and his ex before me i forgot her name anyway she warned me he’d cheat cuz I stole him from her only I didn’t know they were going out) anyways point is he wasn’t moving he just decided he would wreck my dreams and all that good stuff so I quit college .. it was in his home town. I came back to my home town and settled back down in my sleepy little town. I still think about him a lot and I miss him. But feelings faded and I forgot about him… ^{or so i thought}

part two to the story: 6 months later: Ok so I started working at wal mart here in my home town and someone started flirting with me and seems like they ease my mind of a lot of things I told him I didn’t want to be in a relationship though and I explained the situation to him and he made the statement^{“so what you gonna be single forever?”} that kinda opened my eyes that you cant stay mad at your past and judge your future by it so I started talking to this guy. and he and I hung out and went to dinner a few times and talk on lunch breaks and stay up talking on the phone till 3 and 4 am and we become REALLY good friends. ... friends thats it though … well now I think he wants more .. I like him a lot too and I want what he wants…. ^{here comes the catch:}

conclusion to my story: now it seems as if I moved on right I’m gonna be happy again well all of a sudden Tommy starts calling my cell and talking hey whats going on… my girl isn’t doing so great.. im so sorry I love you I really miss you I wish you’d come back and live here and be with me…....ALLLL THOSE FEELINGS I SAID WAS FORGOTTEN SUDDENLY COME RUSHING BACK. .... and I know Im just gonna get hurt again…

my question to you :so do I go back to first love tommy and see if he makes the first mistake again or should I try to go forward in my “friendship/soon to be relationship” my life has walked into now?

I have fallen in love with a man. I think i’m going to be sad when he goes. My heart aches and my mind tries to put that thought on hold. I feel sad everytime I think about him, even when he was within my reach. I love him too much and I am not sure whether this is infactuation or true love. What is love? Isn’t it suppose to be collision between two stars, when it creates fire on ice, etc? Anyway, I am just living for the moment. I only have one life. I will still thank god for giving me the opportunity to meet him.

hello, my name is Dan and i am 21, and the name of the woman that i love more than anything in the world is Lauren. We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary of being together and our 1 year engagement in december. Lauren and I were the perfect couple for over a year. We would always both tell each other it was just like the movies and we can’t believe we found someone like each other, but now its different, Lauren has grew away from me. I have done everything there is to try to make her close to me again, nothing seems to work. I beg her all the time to be close to me, i’ll even try to be super close to her to make her feel it again, or i’ll even be distant from her sometimes to see if it would scare her. i’ve run out of ideas, Ive been trying this for a year now and dont know what to do.She told me today that she doesnt have the same feelings for me anymore(she says she still loves me, just not as strong, and i know she always will love me), and that she can’t do it anymore. I am hurting so badly right now. i just wish there was something that i could do. i would do anything in the world to just have her in my arms. so please let me know what i can do to get her back, and please pray for Lauren, Braydon(our son), and me to all be together

I’m young, just turned 18, but I’ve fallen in love with someone who’s never known much love himself. He isn’t the typical guy girls fall for, and he’s quiet, cold, and pretty much a jerk. But I love all the good qualities about him. I’ve asked him out once by email but then he liked someone else, and so he said no, in a very cold way, not mean, just unemotional…

When he was giving me a ride yesterday, I got the guts to ask him again, now that almost everything was out of the way except maybe some probably fading feelings for someone that didn’t want him. He told me no again. I think I saved our friendship, and that it’s getting better and that’s the only thought that keeps me from crying. I won’t pursue him anymore, but I can’t help but keep loving him- and I know it’s love because I’ve never been sure before- and everything in the world seems to be saying yes, this is someone you’re supposed to be with but he doesn’t want it. I won’t pursue it but I can’t help but wonder and hope a tiny bit if he will ever change his mind by the end of our senior year. In the meantime, what do I do? Is it wrong to still hope, to still wonder? I just wonder.