overcome my shyness

I found out it was nothing but a misunderstanding with my boyfriend, so I gave him a second chance, but I still need to break off with a untrue friend. My plan is to just ignore her when she says something horrible to me, stop obeying her commands, and stop telling her about my personal life.

As for this goal, I realized that it’s not that I’m shy, but I’m just not a people person, and I don’t want to be outgoing because it’s more socially accepted. I’ll need to work a little more on complimenting and approaching people that I find interesting, but I’m no longer going to try to be outgoing to everyone.

I have few friends, and some think it’s okay to just insult and use me. The problem is that I don’t want to be a doormat, but can I afford to be agressive when I don’t have many friends? I’m a caring, positive person with interests and goals. But it feels like I’m too different from other freshman girls to really be good friends with them.

This is coming from something that happened today. My boyfriend that I’ve only had the eyes for, has said that he likes me and another girl (who doesn’t like him back). He’s such a flirt, and he used to tell people he had crushes on multiple girls… not to mention, I really do get the feeling that he would go out with someone else if he could. To get to the point, I don’t trust him, and I feel he thinks about other girls when he’s with me.

I should break up with him since I know he’s just dating me because I love him, and we weren’t such a compatible couple to begin with. But I’m so shy, I’m afraid that I won’t get another boyfriend, and I won’t be able to make other friends…. I feel like I should break up with him and some friends if just to prove to myself that I can get another boyfriend and new friends that won’t use me… or maybe I stop seeing my bad friend, keep my very few true friends, should just cut the whole high school hype about having lots of friends.

I’m actually improving now. After being in a group every school day, you start to get to know the people, and it gets easier to talk. I was with my boyfriend and a friend of his this morning, and we had a great conversation!

The rest of the day went really well… I didn’t talk to anyone new, but I had some great conversations today. I thought that this was because of my makeup… I used to have severe acne, and I still fret about my skin. But a friend told me I didn’t even look like I was wearing makeup, so I guess it was just a change of attitude or me getting out of a rut.

I’m not marking this as done yet. Not until I learn how to approach people and talk to people I’ve never met… that seems like a long ways away.

I can talk to people just fine when they talk to me, and sometimes I approach people. I just can’t talk to people in groups. When I’m talking to one person, I concentrate on that one person, and sometimes I act different. But when I’m in a group of extroverts, everyone’s talking fast and my deep but slow way of thinking becomes a curse. I’m dating an extrovert, and we go into groups whenever we go to parties and dances. I want to talk and be as fun and outgoing as he is with lots of people, but… no luck.

I accept fully that I’m an introvert, but I want to be able to be (or at least act) socialable, even if it’s just for a couple hours.

i’ve been shy all my life and it’s come to the stage where either i find help or depression will consume me

now it’s been almost 2 weeks since i started high school and i’m just starting to realize more and more that i actually never really was shy because what does the word shy actually mean? for me it meant that i’m afraid of talking with other people, afraid of what they might think of me if i say or do something, but i realize more and more that i actually never really cared about that. it’s more something that i am and maybe always will be. i’m just not a people person. i only like having a few close persons around me and that’s it. i don’t need anyone else… that’s what i’ve realized now when i’ve had so many new people around me, talking to me… i’m free now, but i still feel like i don’t want to talk with anyone much, just do my things. i’m sure this sounds weird to many people, but it’s just my thoughts…

This’s really hard. My shyness affects me in a lot of ways sometimes. I’m really trying to change it, but it’s hard.

i’d really need to overcome my shyness, but it’s so hard now because i’ve gone so far with it that it’s impossible for me to step out of it, when i meet new people i don’t even know what i should say and what i shouldn’t and then offcourse i say something that i shouldn’t… everything gets just so wrong that i don’t even want to meet new people and it just kills me because i’d love to have more good friends, i only have a few friends that i really can talk to… so i don’t know what to do now? i’m starting high school in a week and i’m already so nervous because i don’t know anyone there and i’m so afraid that i’ll be lonely so i don’t know what i should do… if anyone could help me, please tell me…

isn’t always a good thing. Well, it for me anyway…

a) I find it difficult to make new friends.

b) I’m finding it difficult to ask my crush out.

:(