not take things personally

it really helps to just see it from the opposite point of view, though. i know that i don’t mean all the weird things i end up saying to people..

I will always be working on this one.

this is something i always have a problem with! i never thought about it really to change my ways but now im going to start. from now on im not going to take things personally

You totally can’t go through life taking everything personally. I truly believe that this is YOUR life, do whatever you want to do. because honestly if you live for other people, then who are you? you can’t get to figure out who you are if you don’t let yourself be that. you can’t just conform to what society deems right, just be yourself, and thats all that matters. When you’re old and you look back on your life, do you honestly want to regret wasting years on trying to please people who don’t remember you? its pointless. do what YOU want and what makes YOU happy. i am so in love with life, the ups, the downs, and everything that is thrown at me, just live and let die.

This is really great and all, but sometimes for me it translates to obliviousness, or denial.

So this has to be carefully balanced with integrity, and calling people on things when they are being less than good to you.

How do i say this. I was born sensitive and i’ve been trying to get rid of it since i can remember…it hinders my relationship with people…it is hard for me to forgive myself yet i fogive other very quickly…almost too quickly. I was never quick witted enough to say something back to those that attacked me or had a tone of attack. I just shied away thing something was wrong….this attitude is leaving me finally…but i wanna know who else makes a habit of condeming themselves so i can tell you to STOP IT! and let it roll.

I take everything personally. Every comment, look, or question feels like a personal attack! I am frustrated that I can’t just take things in stride, or better yet, not let things bother me!

I hate that I get so offended at what people say to me. It’s not the words persay, but the way they say it to me. It’s like they’re attacking me personally. I can’t help but either fight back or shy away. I feel Vulnerable and Weak. I usually try to say something mean back, and it just makes the situation worse. I don’t know how to stop doing this. For all the cool people, stuff like this just rolls off their back, or they know how to respond to this stuff by making a joke. I’m not that quick on the brain. Then I end up thinking about this stuff all day and night. I think I’m crazy sometimes. This blows. But I have to tell myself to suck it up. Cause you got to be a man about these situations. Next time, I have to just smile, and think of something funny to say because I’m totally uncomfortable.

This is a constant struggle. I sometimes read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It helps to remind me to deflect the good, the bad and the ugly comments

I hate that I do that.