make friends and influence people

during my therapeutic crisis intervention training for work, that is really great, if there’s one thing in life I look forward to is credit that I’m developing my communication skills.

Improving the chances that I could influence people for the better.

influence bla bla bla

I think that building up a network of good social contacts, good friends can be a great way to provide yourself with support when you get into lifes choppy waters.

I’m a romantic sort, as a consequence I like to date a lot, for fun and looking for love, it can lead to a lot of disappointment and the blues, feeling melancholy and I think that friends can be and are to me a great help at times like that.

On this goal I guess.

I recently got banned from an online forum that I’d joined, I thought things where going great and I was debating topics with people and stuff.

Then it all went pear shaped and I got banned, I was very surprised since I was just stating my opinion, wasnt asking everyone to think alike but I got banned anyway.

I was a little concerned because I’d shared personal difficulties with the people there, I thought we where on friendly terms with one another, in the posting running up to getting banned they brought it up asked me if I was my own worst enemy.

Now some good friends of mine came to my assistance and told me not to worry about it, that there seemed to be a lot of drama and friction between members on that forum, including a banning of two people before me and perhaps they had become defensive or closed ranks.

I guess I’m always learning how groups interact and work all the time, in the virtual world as much as in the real world.

by Dale Carnegie

It can appear really dated but its 100% correct, the recommendation that you listen, listen, listen and then listen some more, taking a sincere interest in people is correct.

I’ve read lots of other books since then on psychological, social relationships or interpersonal skills topics and they say similar things.