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Lately, I have been playing my bitch card.. err, being more assertive.. and it feels good!
How to stop being such a bitch
It made me
be assertive 
"Sometimes I am a bitch.. but most of the time, I am just asserting myself. "
How I did it: I have a problem with guilt, and often times, when I stick up for myself I feel bad or guilty. And I feel like I could have been nicer about whatever the situation was.
Maybe if the whole world operated like that, things would work out. But it doesn't. And so, I have decided to stop feeling bad about standing up for myself. Its awkward at first, but the more I do it, the more I enjoy it. I now feel more empowered.
So being a bitch? Yeah, I still will when the situation calls for it. The rest of the time? Even if I jokingly refer to it as "playing my bitch card" I will continue to stick up for myself. And if someone else has a problem with it, that's their problem.
Lessons & tips: Say no.
Speak your mind.
Don't let other people take advantage of you; they are going to get theirs.. you might as well speak up and get yours.
Choose your battles.
Resources: Reflective writing helped with this.
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11 months ago
Alright, so I take a fair bit of pride in my ability to put people in their place when that’s what they need. I mean, who can’t stand for that but I was recently alerted to the fact that I guess I can be rude to strangers. I never mean to be malicious and usually if it comes out of my mouth it’s more because I have a point that’s never a personal attack. I have already cut down on my free-flying snark but I am going to try and reel it in even further.
but beware, if you step on my toes I am still going to bark and potentially bite.
I try to be nice;
14 months ago
I even try to do my little random acts of kindness, but sometimes I am just such a bitch. Like this morning, after fighting my way through horrendous traffic due to construction… I drove to my college before work to pick up the books I need for the coming term (which begins this coming Monday, mind you), and the book store was closed for inventory… during regular business hours… less than one week before the beginning of a new term. I was a real bitch about that.
eeek.
3 years ago
sometimes I’m so mean to my friennnddsss.
and I don’t mean to be. D:
I should learn to think before I talk.
I’m always just joking around, butttt..
I guess they don’t take it that way.
Yesterday was a bad day...
3 years ago
...in trying to achieve this goal…insulted whoever i could, refused to be lifted up into a better state of mind, and for what? Just cos i was majorly stressed out!! Doesnt give me the right to make other people feel like shit too
